How to Know Success Has Gotten to Your Head

We’re all working toward being successful and achieving that success is a wonderful feeling. But once you’re there, it’s important to make sure it doesn’t go to your head.

It’s an issue many successful people struggle with, and it can cause serious problems. When you allow your ego to rule, you lose control of your life, your relationships, and everything you’ve worked so hard for.

An overgrown ego is something to be consistently watchful for. Here are some of the most common signs:

You hog the spotlight. When you put yourself out front and keep others in the shadows, you aren’t communicating your success but your sense of self-importance. Putting others forward is not only the right thing to do but also makes you look better.

You’ve stopped learning. Learning doesn’t happen by chance—it takes work and diligence and humility. Talent and luck can happen to anyone, but if you don’t keep learning your success isn’t likely to last.

You take all the credit. Nothing ever great has ever been accomplished without the help of someone else. When you pretend that an achievement is yours alone, you alienate those around you—the very people whose help you’re likely to need again.

You have a sense of entitlement. Believing you deserve certain privileges ahead of other people is a great way to build resentment and contempt. Being the boss doesn’t put you at the front of the line.

You ignore feedback. When you tune out feedback, you risk coming across as someone who thinks they’re too smart to listen to others. And you’re undermining yourself, because success favors those who know how to listen and respond to others.

Your behavior is self-centered. If you consistently put your own needs ahead of others’, you haven’t achieved success at all—because true success is about sharing what you have with those around you.

You’re difficult to be around. If people find it challenging to spend time with you, you’ll soon find yourself alone.

You’re not respectful of others. If you find yourself looking down on others , it’s time for a serious attitude check. Everyone deserves respect. Remember that the day may come when your own success has slipped and the people you’ve slighted are on top , and treat them as you would wish to be treated yourself.

A healthy ego and self-respect are important for anyone, but never forget that you’re no better than those around you. Enjoy the success you’ve earned. Just remember that it doesn’t mean you’re smarter, or more valuable or more worthy of respect.

Lead from within: When you become successful, don’t give in to your ego or rest on your accomplishments. Through success, failure and everything in between, make it a goal every day to be better than yesterday.

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