I’m not talking about the way you speak to yourself, but the words you say to yourself.
- Are you critical of the risks you let yourself take?
- Impatient with your progress?
- Judgmental about your decisions?
As an executive coach, I am always surprised at how harsh some of my clients are with their self talk.
[quote]People who would never verbally abuse another do it to themselves every day.[/quote]
Even the words we hear only in our head have an affect on us.
[quote]The words we speak, echo in our heart, in our mind, in our soul.[/quote]
We make decisions, actions, resolutions based on those words we hear from ourselves.
Listen carefully to the words you use with yourself. Language is central to how we think. Its power is enormous and its influence can be piercing.
If you would never say it to someone else, don’t say it to yourself.
If it drains you rather than adding to your energy, stop saying it.
If it makes you feel sad, mad, or bad, stop saying it.
If it’s a tone you wouldn’t tolerate from anyone else, don’t tolerate it from yourself.
[quote]Words are X-rays of our heart, a connection between our inner life and the world around us.[/quote]
As leaders from within, we must be mindful to be a little bit kinder, gentler, smarter, softer—with ourselves.
Listen to your internal voice and learn to treat yourself with kindness and respect.
Pay attention to the words you use and the words you speak.
Your words have the power to make you your own worst enemy—or to guide yourself toward your best self.
Lead From Within: As a heart-based leader, be the poet of your experience. Be kind with your words and use language to empower.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.