By definition trust means relying on and placing confidence in someone or something. Trusting others is great in theory, but it’s almost impossible to put into practice. Why? Because most of the time you trust people only when they do exactly what you want them to do. When they act otherwise, you feel disappointed and think they can no longer be trusted.
But to trust is not about relying on others to meet your expectations. Trust is about trusting yourself. It begins with trusting your feelings. trusting your ideas. trusting your creativity. trusting your talents.
Trusting yourself doesn’t mean that you are perfect, but that you are perfectly willing to be human. Trust what you want and what makes you happy. Without trust, your life, your dreams, your wishes, your desires will waste away. All you need to know is in your heart …..you just have to trust and follow it.
Lead From Within: Begin by trusting in yourself, trusting in the universe, and trusting that the right things will happen at exactly the right time. You do that, and you will not be disappointed.
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18. Nov, 2009
I say, tongue in check, “I trust people one-hundred percent. I trust them to hurt me, frustrate me, and let me down”. Of course, this only happens if I expect perfection instead of receiving beautiful humanity. I think there is a voice deep inside that says whether people are basically “safe”, or not. There is a voice that guides a perfect destiny and in the end, a perfect legacy. People will be people, but trust is an inside job. I love your theme… “Lead From Within”. Thank you Lolly!
Monica Diaz de Peralta
24. Nov, 2009
Trusting myself is so important. As with others, it is a choice I make. I can trust myself to be the best I can, to learn every day, to be human. I set high expectations for myself, not impossible ones. Simple, growing, loving expectations.
I find it much more fulfilling to also trust others. I choose to trust. 100% I am strong and can live with being let down. When I am, I remember it is my prerrogative to trust or not trust. The world behaves much the same, but seems so much lighter and full of possibility when I trust. I take care of myself and stay safe, which means I mistrust just a bit, just when necessary and just in the arenas where I am still insecure. I work every day to shrink those arenas: to feel capable of braving the world, trustingly, completely, joyfully!
02. Dec, 2009
I think trust entails complete honesty with yourself and others. However, when I ‘expect’ others to be totally honest with me (only in a perfect world) and they aren’t, then I feel betrayed. Depending on how deep the betrayal goes, it can result in frustration or anger or shattered dreams or hopelessness. Some circumstances and situations take a long time to heal, if we allow ourselves to do so. If we don’t heal, we lose our dreams and we’re just existing. The older I get, the more life lessons I receive.