The Balancing Act

How can you stop losing yourself in your busy life?

They say less is more… but we seem to be carrying more, newer Blackberries, IPhones, laptops, so we can keep up with the rapid-fire pace of media bytes, Twitter, FaceBook, Digg, webinars, Skype, and the list goes on.

The struggle for balance — and age-old predicament — has become a fixation. With every new “customization” offered on every new site sprouting up, how do you nevertheless keep from losing yourself in a modern, busy life?

Balance is a real juggling act. But to find balance you must find your true self. Nourish and sustain yourself; don’t diminish and deplete.

Living a balanced life is about integrating the important parts of your life: and realizing you need to make choices. What comes first?


Most people struggle with life balance simply because they haven’t paid the price to decide what is really important to them. ~Stephen Covey

STOP- Step back, slow down, and look at the big picture.  Give yourself permission to get off life’s roller coaster. Allow some ME time.

THINK- Allot time to reflect: and do deep thinking. Prioritize what is important to you. What are your beliefs and values? What life do you choose to lead?

ACT – Be fully engaged: take charge of your life. Don’t be an observer and let it pass by.

LET GO – Purge anything that isn’t working anymore.

LIVE- Live the life you desire and dream for yourself.

In these few simple steps you’ve now taken the time to slow down — and find balance in life.


Remember: We all have our own bank account of time. How you use it is up to you.

Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies. As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world.

Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR,, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.

  1. lawrence berezin

    28. Jul, 2009

    Great post, Lolly. Your advice really resonates with me. I’m paying particular attention to the LET GO part. A good friend shared a wonderful parable with me about letting go.

    A huge army sailed to a distant shore to fight a formidable foe. They arrived in 30 boats. The huge army prepared for battle during the next 30 days. As each day passed by, the army grew nervous and afraid about fighting the formidable foe; until it got so bad, the army wanted to leave without a fight, and sail home to safety.

    On the night before battle, the wise general called his most trusted soldiers to a secret meeting. The wise general ordered his most trusted soldiers to sail out to the 30 boats and burn them all. The loyal soldiers obeyed the wise general’s orders and burned all 30 boats. There was no turning back.

    Upon seeing the flames shooting from the sea, the soldiers looked on in horror. The wise general addressed his troops and told them the only way home was to fight the formidable foe and win. The next day, the wise general’s army fought ferociously an vanquished the formidable foe.

    Sometimes in order to move forward with your life, you need the courage to burn your boats.

    3 down, one to go for me. How about you?

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  2. Earl

    03. Aug, 2009

    Fine post. I’m focusing on the “Let Go” section now – making a transition that will cost some short term income. Change is definitely never free. There is always a cost of some sort involved. The bigger risk? Not taking the risk.

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