The Power of Feedback: How To Make Feedback Constructive

Criticism is rarely easy for anyone to hear, but the manner in which it’s provided can make a huge difference in how feedback is received and how useful it can be in helping the recipient grow.

The way most organizations handle feedback is terrible. Bosses save everything up till the dreaded performance review rolls around. Piling up a year’s worth of feedback in one day is grueling and stressful for everyone involved. Instead of being an opportunity for growth, it’s treated as something awful to get through.

I believe there is a problem—not only with the whole performance review process but with how we communicate feedback. We have institutionalized the art of letting people know how they’re doing, often with a process that does more harm than good. But we dutifully follow the system that’s handed to us, even though it’s unsettling for everyone involved.

Feedback can be invaluable when it’s offered in the right way with the right intentions. Knowing the how and when is a skill, and like any other skill it takes practice to get it right.

Here is the process I teach to top leaders around the world. It’s effective, constructive, and geared toward employees’ overall growth and development.

Make sure there’s a reason. For feedback to be effective, it must have a purpose. You may be analyzing a recent problem to prevent it from recurring, or the employee’s role may be involved in an area that’s been targeted for expansion. Effective feedback requires credibility, and that credibility is absent if only context is “It’s review time and I have to list something under ‘Areas for Improvement.’”

It has to be given at right time and at for right duration. Appropriate timing is important. When an event triggers a need for feedback, provide it as quickly as possible (but not in the heat of the moment). Timely feedback allows you to address issues more effectively, and it doesn’t leave employees feeling blindsided.

It has to be done routinely and regularly. Examining events and looking for highs and lows, and especially for places where changes would be beneficial, should be a regular part of your leadership, whether it’s daily, weekly, or monthly. When feedback becomes part of that process, it doesn’t make recipients feel singled out or like a scapegoat.

Keep it simple and specific. To be effective, feedback must be clear. Stay on track and stick to the issue at hand. Avoid phrases like you never or you always—discuss the impact of specific behavior without blame or personal criticism.

Make it interactive. Feedback works best when it’s treated not as a one-way street but an interactive session for problem solving. Ask for input and ideas to help clarify it’s about progress, not punishment.

Use “I” statements. The best feedback comes from your personal perspective. You can avoid labeling, blaming and accusing by making sure your sentences start with “I”: I thought, I sense,, and by expressing yourself with concern and care,

Know when to go private. It’s a wise principle that’s easy to forget: give recognition in public and criticism in private. Create a safe environment, away from hearing ears, and speak in a way that no one can overhear or disrupt the conversation. Privacy is important.

Stay focused. A good feedback discussion is about one issue, not piling on every large and small grievance at once. If you expand the scope of the feedback to include objectives and criticisms, you risk having an employee who feels attacked and demoralized—and who wouldn’t? Stick to the specific behavior that the employee needs to change.

For every negative, give two positives. A good rule to follow is to start off with something positive. This helps put the person in the right frame of mind to receive information. It’s also good to end the discussion with something positive so they don’t leave discouraged and dispirited.

Follow up for progress. The whole purpose of feedback is for improvement. Feedback needs to be carried out in a constant loop in which everyone thinks about what they’ve done and what they could do better, as they work to grow and develop—and that requires measuring accomplishments. Discuss what is and isn’t working and work together on anything that needs to be amended.

If feedback is positive and constructive, positive outcomes will be the result; if it is grounded in negativity, a lack of engagement and failure will follow.

LEAD FROM WITHIN: Feedback is effective when it’s a two-way street. You need to know how to give it effectively and receive it constructively.


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Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies. As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world.

Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR,, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.

  1. Chandra

    23. Jan, 2018

    Want to bring one observation. Feedback can be invaluable when it’s offered in the right way with the right intentions.? I believe you mean it’s valuable. Or it should be “invaluable when it’s not offered..”
    Thank you.

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  2. Arun Thakur

    14. Feb, 2018

    Giving/getting feedback helps, but organisations needs to develop/nurture work/team culture which encourages the same in a positive way otherwise it may defeat the very purpose….

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  3. Monika Götzmann

    16. Feb, 2018

    Feedback is so important, yet such a difficult area to manage well. The ideas outlined in your article are really effective at showing how to make this a constructive process for all involved. Communication skills certainly are invaluable in this process.

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  4. Narayan Kamath

    24. Apr, 2018

    Good article @LollyDaskal. Thanks for sharing.
    I agree with most of your points, but I hate the “sandwich” (positive-negative-positive). It might make the person giving feedback more comfortable, it confuses the receiver.
    There are two useful elements of the sandwich one can use though.
    One, on the whole, as a leader, you must give more positive/encouraging feedback, than negative/corrective.
    Second, you can end the feedback on a positive/hopeful note, while staying on point.

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  5. Narayan Kamath

    25. Apr, 2018

    ‘invaluable’ means ‘extremely valuable’…

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  6. Dusan Agbaba

    20. Aug, 2018

    Feedback is Important. Effective feedback, both positive and negative, is very helpful. Feedback is valuable information that will be used to make important decisions.

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  7. Rebecca Gardner

    24. Sep, 2020

    It made sense when you said that feedback needs to be done regularly if it’s actually going to become part of leadership. In my opinion, it would be a good idea to use structured feedback surveys to ensure it happens at routine, pre-determined intervals. Your article had a lot of interesting info that gave me a new perspective on feedback, so thanks for explaining it clearly!

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