What can we do when we encounter negativity and hurtful behavior, when
we are mistreated by our co-workers, boss, family, or even friends?
What is the best response?
We can refuse to let anybody else’s malicious intentions or thoughtless actions bring us down.
We can stay true to ourselves by preserving who we are.
We can hold tight to our integrity.
And we can…
Pass and repass.
Pass and repass is being present in your own heart.
It doesn’t mean you have to accept bad behavior—it’s about tapping into your love and empathy and letting it pass, by passing.
It’s about refusing to own the negativity.
Other people’s perceptions do not have to be your own.
Other people’s malice does not have to be your own.
Other people’s labels don’t have to be your own.
You can’t control what others do, but you can control your own choices.
If others wish you harm, pass and repass; otherwise you give their negativity the power to destroy you, the ability to undermine the dignity of who you are.
Know that we have a choice in every moment.
We can stay stuck or we can pass and repass.
The choice is always ours.
Don’t let others affect your future.
Don’t let anyone bring you down, label you, or tell you who you are.
As leaders who lead from within, we cannot stay caught up in what critics say.
We consistently need to check in with ourselves and remember to be the
best we can be—the master of our greatness and be the leader who leads with meaning.
The rest we must pass and repass.
Lead from within: Wishing you all a year with the courage to pass. Never let another affect your future, your reputation, your integrity. Make sure that when people with ill intentions create obstacles to your happiness, you pass and repass.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.