Pass And Repass

What can we do when we encounter negativity and hurtful behavior, when
we are mistreated by our co-workers, boss, family, or even friends?

What is the best response?

We can refuse to let anybody else’s malicious intentions or thoughtless actions bring us down.

We can stay true to ourselves by preserving who we are.

We can hold tight to our integrity.

And we can…

Pass and repass.

Pass and repass is being present in your own heart.

It doesn’t mean you have to accept bad behavior—it’s about tapping into your love and empathy and letting it pass, by passing.

It’s about refusing to own the negativity.

Other people’s perceptions do not have to be your own.
Other people’s malice does not have to be your own.
Other people’s labels don’t have to be your own.

You can’t control what others do, but you can control your own choices.

If others wish you harm, pass and repass; otherwise you give their negativity the power to destroy you, the ability to undermine the dignity of who you are.

Know that we have a choice in every moment.

We can stay stuck or we can pass and repass.

The choice is always ours.

Don’t let others affect your future.

Don’t let anyone bring you down, label you,  or tell you who you are.

As leaders who lead from within, we cannot stay caught up in what critics say.

We consistently need to check in with ourselves and remember to be the
best we can be—the master of our greatness and be the leader who leads with meaning.

The rest we must pass and repass.

Lead from within: Wishing you all a year with the courage to pass. Never let another affect your future, your reputation, your integrity. Make sure that when people with ill intentions create obstacles to your happiness, you pass and repass.

Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies. As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world.

Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR,, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.

  1. Simon Harvey

    18. Dec, 2012

    Interesting analogy Lolly, and yes it is so important to not let other people and their ideas of you bend your will to a place where you do not feel good about what you are doing or who you are.

    Believe in who you are, love who you are, open you heart to who you are, and let life flow through you and from you.

    Each and every person has their own gifts to give the world, each person has love to offer and strength to give the world. And it is within these unique atributes that connect us and can make the world a better place.

    We are all leaders within, we are all capable of wonderful things, of achieving happiness, of discovering love and if we can find the place where we leadfromwithin, I believe we can all achieve great and wonderful things. We can make changes in out lives that will make differences between

    As Eleanor Roosevelt said:

    “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

    Do not give in, you are stronger that you think, wiser than you feel and have more to give the world than you can possibly imagine. Remember you are beautiful, you are unique, you are you, and without you we will loose a special part of who we all are.

    Look within, lead from within, lead with love and compassion and be part of the blossom of humanity.

    Thanks for the reminder to pass and repass.


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  2. lollydaskal

    19. Dec, 2012

    Dearest Simon,

    Secret: Every time I write my posts, I look forward to your comments and analogies, I know you will bring some additional thoughts that will make me think even deeper than I could ever think myself…..

    I am grateful that you take the time to express your heart and I am filled with tremendous appreciation that you share it so beautifully with us!

    Here is a holiday cheer to you Simon, Wishing you a year filled with loving, lovable, love, being loved life.

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  3. David Cox

    19. Dec, 2012

    That was wonderful and well put. I’m glad I saw this.

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    20. Dec, 2012

    yes i am beginning to see this this fact,,thankU

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    20. Dec, 2012

    thank Lolly

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  6. Dan

    20. Dec, 2012

    Lolly, I deeply feel your post. Learning to “pass” on situations where there is harm is an amazing, freeing, and compassionate responsibility.

    There is some grief in it. We have to let go of the part of ourselves that would like “get through” to others or “make things right,” justify or retaliate. What we can do, as you say, is hold tight to our integrity, to a higher self.

    I believe such action can save us and also send a different vibration into the world, a pebble of sanity and caring dropped in a vast pool. Who knows what shores the ripples will touch?

    Thanks for this lovely post and best to you for the holidays, Lolly!


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  7. Skip Prichard

    23. Dec, 2012

    Love this post, Lolly. We can pass and repass. We can hear the negativity, but pass on positivity.

    It’s up to us to turn it around. To pass on love when we see hate.

    This reminds me of the prayer of St. Francis:

    Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
    where there is hatred, let me sow love;
    when there is injury, pardon;
    where there is doubt, faith;
    where there is despair, hope;
    where there is darkness, light;
    and where there is sadness, joy.
    Grant that I may not so much seek
    to be consoled as to console;
    to be understood, as to understand,
    to be loved as to love;
    for it is in giving that we receive,
    it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
    and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

    Have a Merry Christmas.

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  8. Rhonda

    24. Nov, 2016

    Thanks for a great read.

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