How often do you play the comparison game?
Sometimes you believe that if only you had the luck the other people had, then you would make it in life.
Are you not forgetting that luck really has nothing to do with the good things you have in our life and that fortune is the result of making the proper choices and keeping your values intact?
Stop, comparing yourself to others and to their situations.
You never know what is going on in the other person’s life. Each and every one of us has our own lessons to learn, our own essence to explore and pursue.
You cannot begin to be content until you have released the urge to compare yourself to others.
Remind yourself, that there is a purpose and a point to all that you undergo. You suffer, you struggle, and your pain engenders you to have a compassionate heart and be more graceful with others. When you struggle, remember that your suffering carries a gift within its hardship, a goal within a trail. Choose to recognize the powerful strength and goodness in all of your life.
Be alert to your blessings. Open your eyes, ears and heart to the goodness all around you. Focus on the slight, steady, constant flow of blessings you have in your life. Celebrate every circumstance and each encounter.
Your desire to see your blessings gives you eyes to see and ears to hear.
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Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.
Peter Mis
03. Feb, 2010
Lolly,
“Be grateful for who you are and for what you have in your life.”
It took me a real long time to get to this point in my life, but it was time well spent. Grateful appreciation truly is the foundation to peace and happiness.
Thanks for sharing your gift!
Peter
Lolly Daskal
03. Feb, 2010
Peter,
Learn to listen to your own self, if you listen to the self within, then you find your purpose and truth.
Dr. K
16. Feb, 2010
Lolly, enjoying your writing, which I found through a twitter post.
The thing about comparisons is that our minds and nervous systems are designed to make them. We can’t help it. It’s like that book ‘The Four Agreements.’ My wife brought it home, told me the first agreement was ‘Make no assumptions.’ My response? “That guy is assuming I can do that!” I can’t, because assumptions allow me to navigate much of life more successfully than if I had to figure each thing out each time.
Likewise, comparisons can inform us. So I would say that making useful comparisons is a better choice than making limiting ones (a comparison!) So, “A hundred years from now, what difference will it make?” and “It can always be worse,” and “Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” are all examples of potentially useful and life empowering comparisons.
Keep up the great work!
Rick