Life can be challenging, disappointing and upsetting. Living is a laborious process. It often feels like a marathon of struggles peppered with occasional moments of disaster. If someone tells you that life is easy, he or she is probably expressing desire rather than reality. As much as we’d like it to be otherwise, life is difficult. Our protests and complaints in the face of tests and adversity can’t change that. Nothing can.
That leads many of us to believe that real change and finding a meaningful, positive existence is impossible. Illness becomes fatal. Failure becomes an expectation. Progress is reduced to mere fantasy. We surrender.
It’s an unnecessary and unwise surrender, though. While life is inevitably challenging, the difficulties we face are part of a larger process that provides us with the amazing opportunity to embrace life and to see the world with an enlightened sense of understanding and compassion.
While we’ll never eliminate our journeys through life’s rough patches, we can survive them. We can grow in the process, too, instilling our lives with greater purpose and incomparable rewards.
In order to do that, we must make decisions. We must decide, consciously, to persevere. We must also decide to look beyond immediate struggles toward something better. Making those decisions can itself be a challenge in the midst of life’s chaos. How can we hope to find direction?
The question defies a simple, universal answer. Finding that direction requires individual effort. It starts by recognizing the constantly changing world and our parts in it. In order to change, we must acquire new skills, new habits and new disciplines.
We must engage in new thinking.
We can’t hope for something new if we’re doing the same thing again and again. We can only hope to confront and grow in the face of life’s difficulties if we’re willing to do more. We must think. Then, we must re-think.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.