Leadership Takes Wonder to be Successful

We all seem to spend a lot of time wishing.

We wish we were taller, richer, smarter.

We wish our businesses were more successful and our teams more productive.

But what would it sound like if we could change our wishes to wondering?

What different mindset would it bring?

Wishing is hoping for something- even something impossible—to happen.

Wondering is being curious about what will happen.

Wishing speaks of scarcity.
Wondering speaks of inquisitiveness.

Wishing is about wanting and yearning.
Wondering is about creating and inquiring.

When we inquire, we dream. When we are curious, we learn.

Try this: Take out a piece of paper. On the left side write down all the things you wish for. Your list might look like this:

  • I wish I were happier.
  • I wish I could lose weight.
  • I wish I was in love.
  • I wish the deal wasn’t falling apart.
  • I wish my business was more successful.
  • I wish my team was more productive.
  • I wish my boss was not such a bully.

Keep writing until you feel you have written down all your wishes.

On the right side, turn each wish into an inquiry, something to wonder about:

  • I wonder what is like to be happier.
  • I wonder how I can lose weight.
  • I wonder what it’s like to be in love.
  • I wonder if the business deal will go through.
  • I wonder how I can make my team more productive.
  • I wonder what I can do to have a better relationship with my boss.

When you put “I wonder” in your life, you access your mind to inquiry.

When we become curious about our lives we are not trapped in the drama of wanting something and not getting it.

We can handle what may come because we are intrigued about what it will be.

I wonder… allows us to have a better handle on our professional and personal lives, it helps us drop our need for control, because life is not ours to control.

Lead From Within:  Take the pressure off yourself. Do not wish, do not hope—just be curious about what happens and let the wisdom of wonderment always work for you.

 


 

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Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies. As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world.

Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.

46 Responses to “Leadership Takes Wonder to be Successful”

  1. Martina

    09. Jul, 2013

    Excellent advice Lolly. You are of course, correct. Wondering invites us to do more. It invites us to map out the steps it will take to get from “here” to “there.”

    Wondering helps us move toward concrete action, which is what is ultimately required to make any wish or hope or dream come true.

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    • lollydaskal

      09. Jul, 2013

      Again Martina you make my thoughts and heart expand with your insight.

      It is true what you say, Wondering helps us move toward concrete action, which is what is ultimately required to make any wish or hope or dream come true.
      And if we can only remember instead of only wishing.
      we would be way ahead of our being disappointed, frustrated and overwhelmed.
      Thanks again for all that you do.
      Lolly

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      • Badiru

        13. Jul, 2013

        Hi dear
        To me wondering may some times result into some ones passion and as such it is very vital to keep wondering but react as well to your wonders because if you donot react you may just decline in what so ever you are doing.

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    • David F Stannard

      24. Jul, 2017

      That is a tremendous way of thinking. I love it! #Leadership #Leadershipwithin #Woodbadge #Leadershipdevelopment.
      I wonder if more people in the US, like us, will advocate for domestic adoption over international? #LetsAdoptOurOwnFirst #AdoptSiblingGroups

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  2. Mukhtar

    09. Jul, 2013

    Wondering nurtures innovation and inquiry into the possibilities of achieving the wonders that one believes are possible

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  3. Panteli Tritchew

    09. Jul, 2013

    Lovely, lovely, lovely post, Lolly.

    It twinkles, twinkles, like the little star
    That we all wondered about…

    …..as children

    Wonderful reminder to be wonder-full.

    🙂 Panteli

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  4. Wayne McEvilly

    09. Jul, 2013

    Lolly:
    I admire the brilliance of your brevity. You say so much in so brief a space of time.
    The essential technique you suggest here is universally applicable – put to work, it is a mind-changer for the better, more positive, more relaxed, happier outcome –
    I wish more people would take it to heart. Oh, on second thought, I wonder what the result when many people begin to apply this? Will the clouds lift, or what?
    Yo! Here come’s the sun!
    Love,
    Wayne

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    • lollydaskal

      09. Jul, 2013

      Wayne,

      Your comment made me laugh out loud at the computer.

      I wish more people would take it to heart. Oh, on second thought, I wonder what the result when many people begin to apply this? Will the clouds lift, or what?.

      WONDER with me Wayne, your magical soul will do wonders for those who need your guidance.

      Thanks for stopping by.

      Lolly

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  5. Praveen Kumar

    09. Jul, 2013

    Lolly,
    Wonderful post… i feels like feeling early morning sunshine.. such a inspirational words you use.. which are simply happening/thinking/doing in our daily life’s.. you are really great on how you describe the scenario.. i always admire on your motto.. your interest to help people to change there mind set was amazing.. However you are trying hard from your side.. its always matters how people receive it & apply it on there life’s.. But still i inspired and will share your words to my connections..

    Have a wonderful times & wish to see more and more to come..

    God Bless You.

    Praveen

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  6. Alexander

    09. Jul, 2013

    ….but wondering alone can not be sufficient impetus to improvement of the present predicament….he who wonders searches within for a solution…but suffice it to say that only what is inside will come out with or without ingenuity….he who studies and researches will swallow knowledge that will lead to a solution….it may be lead from within but it must be learn from without….u must forgive me for playing the devils advocate….it is for want of being refuted in order to learn….and be better….

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    • John Paul

      11. Jul, 2013

      Alex, wisdom is knowledge applied and wisdom begins in wonder.

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  7. Dr. Rae

    09. Jul, 2013

    What synchronicity Lolly…

    Wonder is the concept we used today for our StressTip, StressQuestion, and StressByte posted on Twitter, Facebook, and G+

    Thank you for sharing your perspective! ~Rae

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  8. Simon Harvey

    09. Jul, 2013

    Lolly your mind is a wonder of beauty, a joy to behold. And yes we should let go of wishes and let wonder open our eyes to the world around.

    I love your title “Leadership of Wonder” as it conjures up endless possibilities and limitless goals, all floating in a vast sea of thought.

    I wonder what will come as more and more people see the possibilities that wonder can bring, the doors it reveals, the compassion it can reveal. When we open our minds and heart to wonder there is a rainbow of discovery to be found.

    Love the post and your heart, looking forward to the chat tonight. I wonder what my heart will reveal .

    Warmest,
    Simon

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    • lollydaskal

      10. Jul, 2013

      Thanks for stopping by Simon and adding to the essence of the post. I loved when you expressed wonderment as… it conjures up endless possibilities and limitless goals, all floating in a vast sea of thought.

      So true, WONDERMENT opens the door for so much. POSSIBILITIES – which are limitless!

      Lets put wishing and hoping aside for awhile and lets give wondering a CHANCE.

      Lolly

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  9. Blair Glaser

    09. Jul, 2013

    Thanks for another inspiring read, Lolly.
    After reading the list of wishes, I found myself filled up with the sensation of choking and was reminded of how we suffocate ourselves with wishes.
    Then you opened the door to wonder and let all that fresh air in.
    It was perfect timing: I just came from a an opening weekend in which people, speakers, leaders and adventures wrestled with wishes and dreams and ultimately opened to wonder and connection.
    I wonder where you will wander next!

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    • lollydaskal

      10. Jul, 2013

      Blair

      Sounds like a very empowering weekend.

      Next week join me for another one of those WISHING attitudes that keep us stuck.

      Stay tuned!

      Lolly

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  10. Terri Klass

    10. Jul, 2013

    I loved how you juxtaposed wondering and wishing, Lolly! I never thought about wondering in such a focused way. But I do agree that wishing makes us only dream without taking any kind of action. When we lead with intent and wonder, we become more empowered and authentic leaders. Thanks Lolly!

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  11. Bill Benoist

    10. Jul, 2013

    I think your post did an excellent job of demonstrating the qualities of leadership. Can you imagine if Kennedy wished America could go to the moon – and stopped there? If King wished for equality, but never wondered how, or Gandhi wished for independence but then moved on to the next item on his wish list. Wishing vs Wondering – I Love It ☺

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    • lollydaskal

      10. Jul, 2013

      So true Bill.
      If we keep wishing we keep prolonging what may come.
      Thanks for your WONDERful illustration how WONDERING can be used.

      Thanks
      Lolly

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  12. FARAYI MHERE

    10. Jul, 2013

    THIS IS GREAT THINK ING MADAM THANK IT HELPS US A LOT TO OPEN MY MIND I AM OPENED NOW

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  13. Jay

    10. Jul, 2013

    Excellent perspective Lolly!! Thank you.

    Jay

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  14. Kent Williams

    10. Jul, 2013

    Well said. I wonder how I can use this post with my team . . . 🙂

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  15. Repa

    10. Jul, 2013

    With wonder, we stay grounded in the present moment rather than wishing it were different. In this way we can be fully present for the wonderful things that happen to us right now.

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  16. Karin Hurt

    10. Jul, 2013

    wonder leads to hope… hope wondered well can lead to important action. Great post.

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    • lollydaskal

      11. Jul, 2013

      Hoping is another word for wishing.

      Wondering is more of a day dream. no expectations but allowing what needs to happen to happen.
      Wishing and hoping is looking out a window.
      Wondering is opening the window.

      Lolly

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  17. Zou,Miaomiao

    11. Jul, 2013

    You writes a new points here. It is great when you writes, “Wondering is about creating, allowing, seeing, and inquiring”. I have never think about “wondering” in this way before I read your blog post. After reading your writing I found myself can be simulated by use “I wonder…” thinking. It is true we will forces ourselves to find something if we wonder about it. We cannot just live with wish,and we do not wonder because wonder leads us to find and to think.

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    • lollydaskal

      11. Jul, 2013

      Zou

      with I WONDER comes suspension. We let go of what we thought we want – and we let come in what we really need.

      I WONDER brings us closer to our purpose.

      Lolly

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  18. John Paul

    11. Jul, 2013

    Socrates may have said it but you nailed it. What a wonderful turn of the light switch, mindset. It truly changes everything. You never cease to amaze me, Lolly and i think you are truly a gem, absolutely wonderful!

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  19. Walter Pascal

    11. Jul, 2013

    Einstein used to spend his time looking at the most simplest of things happening in our universe with a child-like wonder that ultimately led him to discover the most astounding theories in Astrophysics.

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    • lollydaskal

      11. Jul, 2013

      Walter exactly that is the kind of WONDERING I am addressing! Thank you so much for illustrating it in a real life role model.
      Now we just have to emulate it ourselves.

      Lolly

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  20. dawoodchishti

    12. Jul, 2013

    Metamorphosis of wandering into wonderment is the magic your beautiful soul. Excellent post, Lolly, it is.

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  21. dawoodchishti

    12. Jul, 2013

    Metamorphosis of wandering into wonderment is the magic of your beautiful soul. Excellent post, Lolly, it is.

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  22. dawoodchishti

    12. Jul, 2013

    Lolly,

    You have instigated a paradigm shift from idleness to activism through your ‘Wisdom of Wonderment’

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    14. May, 2014

    Yes! Finally someone writes about leadership theory.

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