How do you know if you are suffering from the imposter within? Here are six ways you can tell and six things you might say…
Frauds believe that they do not deserve success and that they are pretenders. Frauds are constantly ridden with guilt and feel ashamed about something, and they don’t believe they are as smart as everyone thinks they are. They don’t think they deserve top positions in their organizations, and they always wonder, “When will the other shoe drop?”
Perfectionists believe any outcome short of perfection is a dismal failure. is belief undermines their confidence and sets them up for failure. There is no such thing as absolute, unchanging perfection—when you have to be the best at everything, you are the best at nothing. We know that and we still strive for perfect. Perfectionists don’t stop until whatever they are working on is perfect, even if that means spending extra hours, days, or weeks to reach this extraordinarily high standard. They wonder, Will I ever reach prefect?
Operators have a list of all the things that need to get done, and don’t feel good until everything is working smoothly—which may never happen. Like perfectionists, operators are relentless about getting the work done—perfectly—or they feel worthless. It is impossible for one person in an organization to do all the work alone, so operators set themselves up for failure. They wonder, Am I the only one who can get the job done right?
Pleasers Beneath it all, pleasers think it is impossible for people to like them, so they do everything they can to make people love them. Do more, be more, contribute more—when others take notice, they can think less badly of themselves. They wonder, “Am I good enough? Do I add value to people? If I don’t add value, I am worthless.
Comparers can’t stop reminding themselves that some- one is smarter, better, faster, leaner, and wiser than they are. Comparers live in a world of constant envy and have a tendency to be harsh and judgmental. Trying to avoid notice, they create a cocoon of safety by turning the spotlight to others. With such an unhealthy state of mind, the life of a comparer is an exhausting, unending cycle of never measuring up. They always wonder, Why are they doing better than I am?
Saboteurs have a voice of fear—not just fear of failure, but fear of success. Saboteurs have a way of showing up every time significance knocks and greatness is at the door. They are so frightened of their own greatness that they will do any- thing in their power to keep playing small, in order to protect themselves from possible failure and shame. is is misguided and incredibly self-destructive when in full bloom. They wonder, how will I fail this time?
Do these sound like you? Do you suffer from any of these alignments? If yes, you might be suffering from the imposter within.
Lead from within: It is not who you are that holds you back, but who you think you are not that does.
National Bestselling Book:
The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness
After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.
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Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.