To me, the single most powerful tool available to us in our attempt to go beyond our egocentric social conditioning and move into conscious, compassionate awareness is recognizing our projections.
Projections means attributing one’s own traits to others.
You look out into the world, and because you are looking from yourself through the filter of your personality, the only thing to see is you.
You think it’s the world, you are seeing, but it is the totality of your own preferences, habits, beliefs, and assumptions projected onto the world.
The fact that we are unconsciousness of this does not mean it is not so.
Maybe what we need is a little self acceptance. Maybe a bit of self-honesty. We all show a representation of ourselves to the world that denies those parts we do not like. It is our shadow side that we project onto others when we point our fingers in judgment. Our ultimate healing depends on acknowledging and accepting all of ourselves. There is nothing here to be feared. It is in our darkness that we find our light.
Choosing compassion, forgiveness and love, for our self first and then for others, is integral to healing and recovery. It brings our power, our truth, and our love back to us and reveals the true nature of our soul.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.