A man had a fig tree planted in his vineyard and he went to look to see if there was any fruit. He couldn’t find any and he became extremely frustrated. He went to find his gardener and when he did – he said, “For the past three years I have been coming to look for fruit on this fig tree and I have not found any and I want you to cut it down right now.”
The gardener replied, “Sir, leave it alone for one more year and I will dig around it and fertilize it. If it bears fruit next year, that will be great. If it does not, then we will cut it down.
How many times in our lives do we sound like the man in the garden?
How many times have we looked at ourselves with harsh judgment and have been frustrated by all the hard work we have put into our lives and business?
We expect our lives to cultivate without errors and without blunders. And when we fail, we are devastated and we want to cut it out-cut it down and walk away.
We all want growth just like the tree owner and when we don’t see the fruits of labor we judge ourselves and we do so without compassion and without kindness.
I am here to say. Give yourself a break.
Do not cut down your trees. Stop and see what is your truth.
Do not walk away feeling like a failure. Stop and think why have you failed.
Do not feel frustrated. Stop and think what is the problem? Does it need more sun? Does it need more water? Does it need more time? Is it planted in a place that cannot support it?
Do not give up on your tree. Think how else can you nurture it and reflect what is your truth and how you can move toward grace.
Dig deep into your weeds and keep your soil (soul) watered and fertilized do not let your judgments and harsh treatment of yourself soil (clutter) your mind.
Lead From Within: Give yourself time to be the person you are meant to be do not cut yourself down before your time.
The fig story was sent to me by my amazing client Sydney Rothenthal which inspired this blog post.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.