This week, I spoke at Ladies Who Launch NYC. It was a wonderful venue with some amazing women like Martha Beck, Elizabeth Lesser and Joan Lunden, each spoke and were quite brilliant.
I stood among these greats and then I got up to humbly share my story.
I shared about how I became homeless and orphaned at sixteen. How all the doors to what I had known in the past
were suddenly closed to me forever. But today I stood before them as a successful woman, and as a celebrated success coach.
My time on stage was very intimate. I really allowed the 300 women in the audience to deeply know me. I shared openly and from my heart.
After I spoke, we had a scheduled break, and I was extremely moved and inspired as women lined up to share their own stories with me.
One woman approached me and asked me, “Lolly, you don’t sound upset about your past. Do you not have any regrets? Are you not angry at your parents? I would be furious!” she declared loudly.
I gently put my arm around her and I knew that my new friend’s questions had little to do with me, but much more to do with her own experiences.
Because my truth is I have accepted what has happened to me.
I not only accepted but I have taken responsibility for my choices and I have learned to have compassion towards myself.
Blaming others, being angry, and holding onto to the past would keep me stuck. And that was a price I wasn’t willing to pay.
I shared with her that my current reality was a reflection of the lessons I needed to learn in order to be the person I was meant to be.
It is through these experiences, of choosing, and taking responsibility. I learned how to engage in excellence in my life.
Do I have regrets about my past?
“No! The past only has power over us when we repeat its story in our day to day life. I have chosen and accepted my past.” I said.
I leaned in and whispered to her, I hope you choose to own your past and build upon it and move forward and regain ownership of a life that you can be proud of!
Lead From Within: Accept everything about yourself – I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end – no apologies, no regrets.
I want to hear from you: Do you have any regrets in your life?
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.