Some people would not know what to do without drama and crisis. So they remain at the control tower, binoculars in hand, on the lookout at all times for the next major disaster.
When no crisis looms on the horizon, they magnify small problems into events of enormous proportions. If the sea is calm for the moment, with not even a small difficulty to liven things up, they simply focus on worrying about something awful that has not happened yet but might at any moment.
They are also talented at becoming involved in other people’s crisis, jumping right in to offer advice and even carry the load as if it were their own.
The reality, of course, is that the only crisis such people suffer from is boredom. They generally need a great deal of excitement and drama to give them a sense of importance and control, and they use crisis to provide them with the stimulation they cannot find in ordinary, everyday peaceful existence.
Wouldn’t it be great, if you could stop for a moment and take a vacation from the crisis mentality mode and just concentrate on joy instead of sorrow, humor instead of drama, peace instead of chaos, love instead of hate.
There are far more satisfying ways to have fun than manufacturing crisis and drama.
In searching for peace and love, we find love and see a peaceful world.
Seek grace in your life, rejoice in the calm, celebrate beauty and harmony, allow your heart to hold the world in tender awe.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.
14. Oct, 2009
This is how my life used to be. I feel very at peace with most of my life now but I find that I have friends who just cant get away from the constant drama. Their drama pours over into my life now. Maybe because I can be a good ear since I am in a calm spell. I see what you mean on the looking for it because I swear that is what they do.
06. Nov, 2009
I am right there with you….i try to be there for my friends but when they are significance seekers it does make it quite difficult as I really do my best to never come from that place.
This was a beautiful post. keep them coming.