Codes Of Conduct To Lead By

As you move through life, if you’re at all thoughtful, you’re constantly developing your own personal code of conduct. It’s a process that happens consciously or unconsciously

You see a cruel or destructive act and think I’d never do that. Or you hear of an act of kindness and store it away, thinking I want to be like that. And over time, these individual elements fuse together into the principles you live by.

If you have found your stride in life and you consider that your code’s more or less in place, that’s great.

If you’re still mastering the things you want to accomplish. Here are some codes of conduct to implement into your leadership.

  • Be your authentic self, because you have to live with yourself every day.
  • Forget those who did you wrong, because they’ve definitely forgotten you.
  • Remember those who helped you, because they haven’t forgotten.
  • Find the silver lining—unless there’s a golden one.
  • Ask questions, because they’re the precursor to answers.
  • Always take the high road. No matter what others say.
  • Choose your values and live confidently in your character
  • Treat others as you’d want to be treated.
  • Change what you can and let go of the rest.
  • The trust you give is the reverence you will receive.
  • Never ask anyone to do something you would never do yourself.
  • Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
  • Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
  • Always keep your word.
  • Be consistent in all you say and do.
  • Always play fair, no matter what.
  • Always be kind. Everyone has a hard fight ahead of them.
  • Make all the small things count.
  • Give more; expect less.
  • Make your word your bond.
  • Do what is right, even if no one is watching.

Lead From Within:  The codes of our lives are what help us to conduct ourselves rightly and have the right outlook on life. They provide guidance for our leadership.

What would you add to this list?




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  1. Fred Aubin

    11. Nov, 2014

    Great post Lolly …pretty much matches mine except for “always play fair” and “find the silver lining—unless there’s a golden one” ….and I be adding the latter to my ethos.

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    • lollydaskal

      12. Nov, 2014


      I am interested in hearing your code of conduct.

      You don’t play fair?

      Look no further….You are lined with a golden heart.

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  2. Krista

    11. Nov, 2014

    These are great codes of conduct to live by. I especially like – Always keep your word.

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    • lollydaskal

      12. Nov, 2014


      Thanks for stopping by. Yes- keeping your word is the creator of trust and so many leadership qualities.

      Thanks for your comment.

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  3. Garren Fagaragan

    11. Nov, 2014

    This list is great Lolly.
    Activating these codes certainly
    brings oneself meaning and fulfillment.
    Thank you.

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  4. Panteli Tritchew

    11. Nov, 2014

    These are all great codes to guide our daily actions and our personal growth, Lolly. The first (“Be your authentic self, because you have to live with yourself every day”) and the last ones (“Do what is right, even if no one is watching”) make absolutely wonderful bookends for the list in between! Lovely! Missing LFW chat and sending good wishes coast-to-coast!

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  5. Prateek

    12. Nov, 2014

    Well … they all are nice and i do not have something to add to this right now but for sure i will.

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  6. LaRae Quy

    13. Nov, 2014

    Love this list, Lolly!

    I’ve been in conversations this week where I wanted to be “less than generous” and your post reminded me that it’s always better to take the high road!

    Thanks for a timely reminder of professional code of conduct…

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  7. John Paul

    14. Nov, 2014

    We, who are on the road, must have a code we can lead by! Great article and set of codes. Thank you, Lolly!!

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  8. Sampathkumar Iyengar

    14. Nov, 2014

    Excellent Points. Humility does the trick in many sticky situations.

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  9. Nandita

    18. Nov, 2014

    Wonderful. I like the last point best!

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  10. Vasilis Hilakis

    19. Nov, 2014

    It is very good job! This is the correct code…

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  11. Ante Lauc

    01. Dec, 2014

    I like your code because it is very near biosphere and noosphere laws, where love and freedom can be realized.

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  12. Craig

    16. Dec, 2014

    I like them all, however I like to compartmentalize, because I tend to act on things I can remember. Many of them are saying the same thing. Just my 2 cents. You are good!

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  13. Dr.Sridevi G

    31. Dec, 2014

    Absolutely true…these are the best codes of conduct dear Lolly…Thank you…

    ….One must listen to mind, heart and soul…and act accordingly…..

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  14. Mercedes Sancho

    10. Jan, 2015

    Great article and so close to muy beliefs. I would rather say “Treat others as they’d want to be treated”, but it is a lovely reading

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  15. Jim

    28. May, 2015

    I only have one disagreement. “Treat others as you’d want to be treated” only goes so far. The big problem with it is the assumption that everyone is just like you. Everyone is different. The Golden Rule ends up being a self-centered when you think about it from this perspective

    I much prefer the “Platinum Rule:” Treat others as THEY wish to be treated. It requires developing a relationship, listening and the courage to ask them directly how they want to be treated. I believe leaders should aspire to this higher standard.

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    • LOATC

      21. Mar, 2017

      I absolutely concur with The Platinum Rule. People are individuals, so very different and unique. Everyone is motivated by different things (money, time off, recognition, etc.). You really have to know what motivates THEM not assuming it is the same thing that motivates you.

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  17. Micha

    31. Jul, 2015

    I especially like this one :Forget those who did you wrong, because they’ve definitely forgotten you. Absolutely smashing.

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    23. Jan, 2016

    Perfect stuff and a great way to start every day … Reading these aloud before you begin work will be a great inspiration…

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  19. marc zazeela

    15. Apr, 2016


    All of these make so much sense. I might add to live in the moment. The past can’t be changed and the future hasn’t happened. The most important time of your life is this moment.


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  20. mercy

    05. Jul, 2016

    Thanks lolly, amazing quote- choose your values and live confidently in your character.

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  21. Mary

    14. Jan, 2018

    Your post always inspire me, this list is great, especially like “always play fair no matter how you are treated”. This is so important !

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  22. M

    08. Apr, 2018

    Thank you for this article. It’s extremeky helpful!

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