Are You Being Authentic?

Perhaps you are feeling tired, empty or depressed because you are draining energy as you push your inner desires away.

Maybe you thought that pleasing others… parents, teachers, bosses and spouses was the way to be. Maybe you played by other people’s rules.

Just as the world around you is changing and evolving, so are you.

You now want to travel to new places. You want to stop doing what others want you to do. You want to stop struggling and straining. You want to become more competent, independent – and able to meet our your own needs.

You no longer want to chase someone else’s dream; you want to live your own dreams, you want to come to grips with the idea of being our own person. You want to start living an authentic life, a life you were meant to live.

But living an authentic life requires the courage to face personal truth.

That truth might be how you really feel about yourself, what fears are blocking your success, which habits are preserving the life you have, or what dreams you have suppressed.

The universe will challenge you and sometimes you will try to dance as fast as you can, trying to distract yourself from the inner work that needs to be done. Denying your inner truth is like trying to keep the lid on a pressure cooker that has built up too much steam.

If you know in your heart that you’re not using your most precious gifts or pursuing your dreams, you will not feel passion for the path that you are on. You will find life unbearable.

To find this authentic life, you must find it in yourself.

How do you do that? You must tune into your inner wisdom.

Ask yourself the question “What is important to me?” and then listen to your inner voice, and trust what you hear.

Value your mind, the power of consciousness and clear thought, because your inner voice will quietly guide you within to a clear path that resonates for you – it will lead you to live a life, that is aligned with your purpose.

This pathway will reflect what you believe, how you feel, and what you know.

Living authentically is being committed to the truth of who you are.
It is setting the intention to walk with your purpose more fully and gratefully.
This work is a lifetime process, but in each moment, we have a choice.

What choices will you make to live authentically today?

Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies. As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world.

Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR,, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.

  1. Shalini Bahl

    17. Oct, 2009

    I just came upon your site and enjoyed reading your posts and other comments of people. Keep up the good work of bringing mindfulness to work!

    I also wrote about the authentic leader that you may find interesting:

    Adding to B Kite’s point I wanted to point out some questions one can ask to tap into one’s purpose:

    And I also wanted to say I loved the Barking Unicorn’s point about the changing nature of life, so there cannot be a purpose, and it is important to be fluid and flow…

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  2. Kate Muker

    02. May, 2010

    I really enjoyed your article, we share a very similar philosophy for living. Each day I try my best to be guided by my inner diva. Some days are better than others. It’s been amazing to observe how my life unfolds when I listen to my heart (inner diva).

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    • Lolly Daskal

      02. May, 2010

      Kate, It is so great to see you. Inner wisdom is the best guide for our life directions.

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  3. Henry Pena

    04. Jun, 2010


    Thank you for sharing this wonderful article with great insights and inner probing questions.

    Yes, living authentically is a moment to moment experience. I often find myself “holding back” due to fear and other self-induced illusions. I’m still overcoming past programming that no longer serves my best and highest good… it’s a process for sure.

    Again, thanks for your insights and I look forward to reading more!

    Best Regards,


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