There are many things that can stress us out, especially when we want to create our own success stories.
Unfortunately, most of us end up tolerating some of our own bad habits, even though they cause much of the stress we experience.
So what are the stressful habits we need to stop tolerating? Here are the worst:
1. Toxic relationships.
Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to waste time on people who are toxic. The people in your life should support you, help you, and lift you up. If not, they are likely causing you uneasiness that you don’t need and shouldn’t have to tolerate. To succeed, you need relationships that will make you feel good about yourself.
2. Lying to yourself.
Everyone lies–that’s a fact–but lying to yourself can cause unnecessary concerns. If you want to be successful, you have to take chances and risks, and above all, you have to be honest with yourself.
3. Not parting with the past.
You’ll be less frustrated with yourself if you can let go of the past. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the old one.
4. Settling for less.
A surefire way to cause stress in your life is to start putting your needs last and keeping them on the back burner.
5. Believing in perfectionism.
Trying to be prefect only provokes anxiety. The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists; it rewards people who get things done and make things happen.
6. Holding on to your fears.
If you’re scared of making a mistake, you’ll never succeed. Doing something and getting it wrong is 100 times more productive than doing nothing at all, so don’t allow your fears to get in the way of who you are meant to be and what you need to accomplish. Every success story has a trail of failures behind it; every mistake can lead to success.
7. Cutting yourself down.
Stop talking down to yourself–trust me, there are enough people who can do that job that you never have to do it yourself. Change your small-minded thoughts to big-picture goals and build yourself up instead of cutting yourself down. Refuse to lower yourself or your standards; instead, constantly raise yourself up.
8. Accepting your own excuses.
Sooner or later, you’ll realize that excuses don’t get you what you want. And if you want success, you’re going to have to take things into your own hands and make it happen. Excuses cause tension, while power creates determination.
9. Being jealous.
Don’t be concerned with who may be more successful than you. Instead, concentrate on beating your own records and surpassing your own goals. Success is a battle between you and yourself, no one else. Make it worth your while; make it about you.
At the end of the day, don’t have tolerance for the things that stress you and stand between you and your greatness.
N A T I O N A L B E S T S E L L E R
THE LEADERSHIP GAP
What Gets Between You and Your Greatness
After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.
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Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.