Has your boss stopped returning your calls?
Have they stopped asking you for your opinion or introducing you to new clients?
It’s time to consider the possibility that you’re being frozen out from above.
Here are some surefire signs that you’ve fallen out of favor–and, on the positive side, what you can do about them.
1. You’re being assigned to menial tasks instead of good projects.
You have worked hard and been putting in long hours–maybe even more hours than most–but you’re not seen competent or capable and get assigned to tasks far below your ability level.
What to do: Become your own advocate. Make a list of all the things you have done well and approach your boss with clear concise communication. Let your boss know that you want to grow and develop and do more than you are doing now. Ask directly for an opportunity to showcase your skills and talents, then give it all you’ve got. Make a big enough impression that your abilities will never again be in doubt.
2. You’re experiencing radio silence in place of feedback.
There’s only one thing worse than constant micromanaging feedback, and that’s not getting any feedback at all. The absence of feedback may mean your boss doesn’t view you as a valued team member and so doesn’t particularly care what you do. Or it’s possible that you’re not being coached up because your boss believes you won’t be around much longer.
What to do: Again, speak up. Ask directly for feedback. Show an interest in improving and in your boss’s thoughts, and let them know you value their them.
3. You’re encountering insults and rebukes instead of praise and validation.
If your boss is throwing insults at you, rebuking you and saying disparaging or discrediting things, you don’t have to ask yourself if you have a problem. You do.
What to do: Talk to your boss promptly. Some aren’t great with people or social skills, and they might not even be aware of what’s happening. It’s a tough tightrope to walk, because you don’t want to come across as a complainer. Lead the way and speak to your boss with respect, giving them a chance to return it.
4. Your boss is available or accessible to everyone but you.
If they ignore you but have no problem making time for others, you have a problem.
What to do: Speak from your heart and try to find out why things are the way they are. Ask what you can do to prove yourself and make things right, and let your boss know their guidance and input are important to you.
5. Your boss is always micromanaging instead of trusting your judgment.
If everything you do seems to be wrong and your boss has started not to trust you, you need to save yourself and your reputation.
What to do: Before it becomes a bigger problem, talk to your boss. Be inquisitive and open, not defensive and confrontational. Ask how you can do better and let your boss know you will do your best so you can earn their trust again.
There are many reasons why you may have fallen out favor with the boss, but the worst thing you can do is pretend it’s not happening. The sooner you realize the relationship isn’t working is the moment you have to make it right. Do what you have to do to communicate with your boss and start making improvements immediately.
N A T I O N A L B E S T S E L L E R
THE LEADERSHIP GAP
What Gets Between You and Your Greatness
After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.
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Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.