Leadership: Doing versus Being

Posted on 18. Sep, 2012 by in Lead From Within, Leadership Development

As leaders we sometimes get confused with the concepts of being a leader of doing.

What did I do for my team today?

What did I do for my organization yesterday?

We may want to revisit the concept that doing is our being.

Because the sad truth is this: What we are doing is not necessarily what we are being.

When we start to think too much about ourselves in terms of impressions of our own leadership on others, it creates a way of thinking that dominates our responses and reactions. It can even color our perception.

We may think, “Look at all I’m doing! That is my leadership,” and we may get caught up in a cycle of feeding ourselves this misconception as truth. But all we are really doing is blocking out the real self, the real light, the real leadership.

If you want to stop identifying yourself with the conceptual self, if you want to stop confusing doing with being, you need to find the real you – the hidden you, the unknown you, the true being. You do that by maintaining the distinction between your activities and who you are.

Start looking deeper inside yourself to discover the core convictions of your entire self, your real being.

Buried inside every leader resides the true self, not the conceptual self. When you find it through layers of digging and discovery, with contemplation and courage you will be able to find that you are much more than what you are doing, that you exist as a real being whom you may have disregarded before.

Lead From Within: Think of your conventional sense of self. Is this a real conception of self, or is it confused with complex activities, or with concepts and impressions about who you think you are?

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17 Responses to “Leadership: Doing versus Being”

  1. Edward Colozzi

    18. Sep, 2012

    A Wisdom Post Lolly!
    Perhaps when we respond to our “DO_ing” energy, we are often ‘driven’ and act from an external locus of control. When we respond to our “BE_ing” energy, we are more likely to experience ourselves being lead, and “leading” from that important source of an internal locus of control, often providing us with a stronger sense of personal agency, a process you wisely refer to as “leadingfromwithin”.

    BOTH are choices we make daily, about which frame of mind and heart WE each choose to embrace. BOTH choices are informed by our values. So what values are informing us, and why are they so powerful?

    You point out the importance of listening and responding to our True Self to make these choices. Thanks for your efforts to wake us up to our True Self, and choose BE_ing that results in more effective Leading. Regards, EdC

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  2. Jesse Stoner

    18. Sep, 2012

    Another great post, Lolly. We get out of balance when we tip the scales too far in one direction or the other. I call it the “dooby dooby doo dilemma.” Unfortunately, most people these days are not even aware there is an alternative to doing.

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    • lollydaskal

      18. Sep, 2012

      Most of the time Jesse, I do not feel like a human being but a human that is becoming.
      Thanks for stopping by!

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  3. Steven Snyder

    18. Sep, 2012

    Great post, Lolly. When i focus on “being” instead of “doing” i find myself more connected with others. It leads to better, more fulfilling relationships. Ironically, i think it leads to more getting done as well. I’ve found that the practice of mindfulness – and in particular mindfulness meditations — helps put me in a state of mind where i can be fully present with every interaction.

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  4. Caroline Carlicchi

    19. Sep, 2012

    Hi Lolly,
    I discover your blog through this post and I have a great experience !
    Your post is insightfull and inspiring to move from the doing to the being.
    Thanks,
    Caroline

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  5. J Mathias Bennett

    19. Sep, 2012

    This is right on Lolly – Thank you for putting so succinctly into words/a comparision chart what I’ve been working on /putting into practice =)

    Best,
    Mathias

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  6. Dgbradl

    20. Sep, 2012

    Great post! Our BEING is where we find our WHY to guide what we DO.

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  7. Martin Proulx

    20. Sep, 2012

    Wonderful post. Following someone because of what he/she does is not leadership, it is convenience. True leadership is following someone for who they are, their values and belief system.

    I just discovered your blog. I like it!

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  8. George Larson

    20. Sep, 2012

    This is a very insightful post, Lolly. One way to begin the day is to focus in on the being part of us, before we even begin to tackle the to-do list. I especially love your list of “doing” versus “being.” Nice work!

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  9. John Grinnell

    21. Sep, 2012

    Great Post: For me my being is in my doing when I make my achievment goal a secondary target behind the primary target of experiencing the experience I’m in right now making contact with others and my immediate environment.

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  10. Dave Nowery

    22. Sep, 2012

    We may what (want) to revisit the concept that doing is our being.

    I think you meant to say “want”.

    Hope you don’t mind the edit feedback. I enjoyed your article! I will be more aware of the doing side of being a leader this week.

    Cheers,
    Dave

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