When we judge, we inhabit a world of which we put labels on another which causes us to feel separated from the trust and connection that is essential to life and leadership.
So why does it happen? Why do we judge? It comes back to the self: fear, shame, insecurity.
It is when we are disconnected from our own feelings that we project them onto others.
When we honestly own where we are going and how we are leading, we can guide ourselves through whatever is going on inside us without the need to externalize it by judging.
We make these decisions every day, with every thought, with every conversation, with every encounter. As leaders, we are called to rise above our insecurities and projections and allow others to be who they are.
It isn’t always easy to do. For many of us, judging comes as second nature. But learning to release the need to judge, to look within instead of projecting, can be a powerful source of heart.
We must remember that leading is a privilege, and that the noblest form of leadership is to observe ourselves and give freedom to others.
Leading with heart is something we experience every day, a practice that is everlasting no matter where we are or what we are doing. And heart-centered leadership has no place for judgment, separation, exclusion. It is the way of inclusion, service and giving.
Lead From Within: As Leaders the profound lesson is….Do not judge but to allow each encounter, each connection, each communication to lead with love and heart.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.