Change: The Sixth Sense

Lolly –
Change is not only a business process that can be managed through a series of spreadsheets, webinars and conference calls but a HUMAN process that’s personal and emotional. Any change that only speaks to the minds, and not the hearts of the people won’t stick. Understanding a change and a willingness to go through the emotional transformation to embrace the change are two different things.

Thanks for the great reminder for all organizations and business leaders of the emotional process that accompanies any and all change.

Lolly:
Change can be a beautiful thing, something we all can go through and adapt. But change can be also discouraging. It needs to be brought on in a controlled manner and directed. It doesn’t matter if it’s in business, sports or personal life.
Thanks Lolly for sharing!

dear Lolly,we are agree with you,but you know very well,mostly people are not think so,they have note feel or accepted thate trooth.
again we agree your think.

Lolly – Thanks for diving into this important dimension of change. I share your perspective and agree with with Alli’s comments above. While the traditional tools, protocols and processes of change management provide a necessary structure for transitions, when we fail to acknowledge and factor in the human-emotional dimension of change, even the best processes will fail us, both individually and organizationally.

Thanks for sharing!

thanks lolly,,applying the stages of grief to change,now that you told me,it makes perfect sense…grief after all, is for the most part nothing more than a reaction to unwanted change.Unfortunately change is inevitable.No one is able to refuse change,we can only refuse to set a path,or direction we want our change to follow.if you cant stop time,you cant stop changing.

Lolly –
I look forward in the next six weeks to following your contemplations on change.
In my morning twitter sessions I follow my intuition in what direction to take – this morning “Energy” has emerged as a central theme – I find this most applicabe; you say “We may become mired in depressive thought and behavior that leave little energy to deal with anything else”…..it is so important to have powerful tools to deal with this – otherwise overwhelm ensues – the issue must be dealt with from the heart and our box of tools has gotta be installed there.
Thank you for another thought-inducing action-inducing post.
Wayne
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This is a wonderful post about human reaction to change, Lolly! The model is a perfect way to look at an individual’s feelings regarding change because any change does involve a death. When change happens we are saying goodbye to something that was and will no longer exist. It can be like a loss sometimes and we need to acknowledge it. I look forward to the rest of your posts. I love reading them.
Terri

Lolly, great post here. Thank you for sharing. More and more, I am starting to embrace change as an opportunity rather than a challenge. It is an opportunity for me to explore other possibilities; an avenue to adventure rather than torment. With this mindset, I find the ‘grieving curve’ has less of a gradient. At the top of the curve, I can then glide down the curve of opportunity to claim my prize 🙂

Lolly,

Great post. Being aware of our emotions in regards to change is very informative and powerful. We only have control over how we respond to a situation not the situation itself..

Thanks for the insight.

Lucille Fisher
@sageandsavvy

I am reminded of the intra-personal exchange between my heart and my head. Sometimes when going through change it is my head that keeps my heart beating on the right path concerning the emotions of change. I usually think of it in the other direction. Thank you, Lolly. I am not sure if this was the intent of your message but what you wrote took me there. I guess the caveat is being in touch with your heart and calling on your resources when in need. Of course tie this to organizational change and we have a big cultural heart/mind set to deal with.

I really like your post, Lolly, and the many comments on the importance of feelings as a “sixth sense.” I would add, and tag onto John Paul’s comment, that not only are both logic and feelings important for truly relevant dialogue (interpersonal or intra-personal), but it is also important to understand that the syntax or “logic” of feelings is not the same as for logic! Required are dialogues between two different systems of “logic” or syntax, no? My best! ~Norman

Lady, your insight of spiritual side of humanity is brilliant. Change is a key for each individual to know they have the self discipline. To achieve this wonderful inner being which is self. I learned a breathing concept many years ago. From an art called Pa Qua Hop Sing, it is one of the oldest martial arts. Centering on breathing and disciplining the inner self. There are things I must do each day to keep this freedom of self bondage. My ability to live today for what is real in my inner spirit has become a miraculous control over the energy of me. I have learned to control the smallest word in my vocabulary NO. Today I don’t have to live that way! I can be wonderfully spiritually free.

Thanks for this Lolly. Very nice post. I agree with your points above and would like to think that we could even go a step further! Since our individual experiences of life are subjective and filtered by emotional states, getting insight into the motivation causing the emotional state would provide the basis for a dialogue around the change. In turn, helping others to find a new perspective on the distressing situation, motivating and empowering them.

Awesome information on change. Like always you hit the nail.
Looking forward the upcoming series.

Thank you for the invitation to say more, Lolly, about how the syntax of logic and emotions are different. Here are some beginning differences. Logic’s goals are to be right and objective. Feelings goals are to be heard, and are subjective. A person speaking from the space of logic wants to be told they are understood and correct. A person speaking from the space of feelings wants to be told they’ve been understood and valued.

Hi Lolly,

Actually everything in this world will and must change. Just look at our self. We came to this as the infant by know nothing. Grow and getting older. That is change.

There is a change consciously and intentionally and another unconsciously and unintentionally.

The point are as follow in my opinion:
What kind of change that we want it?
Why we have to change?
What we gonna do by this change?
Where we will go by this change?

It’s just little opinion from me.

Thanks for your interesting article.

Agus

Our leadership team is in the middle of planning for a big change to take place this summer. It will greatly impact my area so I’ve been actively involved. What has been really interesting to see is that ALL levels go through these stages when it comes to change. Even the people planning and implementing the change go through an evolution because, in a lot of cases, it impacts their jobs as well (sometimes to the point that they might find their job is irrelevant in a new structure).

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Jesse Stoner and yourself are on my top ten favorite bloggers on “leadership”. Keep up the good work and looking forward to this discussion. I’m hoping you the total 6-7 weeks in one post.
Blessings,
Don J.

I find it interest that this post is about the 6th sense, yet most of the comments are about change. Change is a fact of life because life is constantly changing and evolving. Our ability to deal with it is determined by our emotional maturity.

The key to increasing you ability to using your sixth sense is understand emotions. Some call that emotional maturity or being emotionally balanced. I point this out because the 6th sense is “consciousness” and the language of consciousness is emotions. In other words, those who understand emotions also are also very intuitive. They have a highly develop 6th sense.

Grweetings for you Mrs, Lolly , from Your dear : Agim,,,

Lolly,

Thank you for this. As a college student, I encounter plenty of change. I have found that, as humans, we tend to rely on routine. When that routine is tampered with or changed in any way, we tend to allow the change to rule our emotions. The way you compared change to the five steps of grief was great. I plan on looking at the rest of your series on change. I could use a bit of guidance and your blog has been wonderful so far.

Thanks again!
Chelsey

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