Who Are You When No One Is Watching

The moments that define who we truly are, are created when no one is watching.

When our heart pushes us to do something simply because it calls to be done. That is someone who leads when no one is watching.

When your soul aches to be seen and your voice to be heard, you have become passionate – even though no one is watching.

When you reach for a level of excellence that makes your heart smile, you have become disciplined – even though no one is watching.

When you reach for places beyond your vision that you didn’t believe you could go, you have become a visionary – even though no one is watching.

So many people seem to think that dreams, visions, grand plans, inventions and creative bursts are reserved for writers, inventors, composers and artists.

That such heights are not attainable for ordinary people with ordinary vocations, ordinary families, and ordinary relationships.

But I disagree with that kind of thinking.  I believe we can all be extraordinary in our ordinary lives. Every one of us can look toward the stars.  Every one of us can shine.

Who are you when no one is watching?  Those are the moments when you’re defining yourself.

Those moments when the only reward is choosing to do something for no other reason than to prove to yourself that you could do it – to prove that you can be extraordinary.

Lead From Within: Choose courage; resist compromise be the person you are meant to be. Be your Extraordinary Self.



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The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies. As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world.

Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.

  1. Justin

    25. Jan, 2011

    yes , yes we can all be extraordinary in our ordinary lives 🙂 Thanks for sharing Lolly

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  2. Anisha Patel

    27. Jan, 2011

    your article reminded me of a video that was inspired by this very idea, it’s beautiful and shows that when no one is watching, something extraordinary can occur


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  3. Indira Hau'ofa-Kiaga

    29. Jan, 2014

    Tears in my eyes, thank you for sharing this Lolly. Ahh the moments of silence and absence of praise when we know we must press on to do good, to be faithful in what we are given and produce excellence when no one is watching.

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  4. Dawood Chishti

    18. Jul, 2014

    Drawing to absorb, and affecting to act.
    Much appreciated Lolly!

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    18. Jul, 2014

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  6. Fred Aubin

    04. Sep, 2014

    Great post as usual Lolly.

    Who am I when no one Is watching? Pretty much the same guy when folks are watching ….well, maybe dressed more casually.

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  7. swathi

    11. Sep, 2014

    Really its inspiring

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  8. sumeet

    05. Oct, 2014

    Very nice…
    Thanks Madam,
    Every single word of your have some magic!

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  9. Narayan

    09. Jun, 2015

    We have to bend the bars, break the shackles and get out of the comfort zone.

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  10. Muange Emmanuel

    22. Jul, 2015

    To Lolly
    wow! What a poetic way to write how we can be extraordinary and do the right things when not in the light.Many a times people tend to do the extraordinary in a group either to feel good or appreciated.My thanks goes to you Lolly for showing us that we can choose to be in the lime light even though no one is watching.
    . from muange Emmanuel

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    27. Jul, 2015

    Working to make the things better

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    16. Jan, 2016

    Lolly is an amazing! Even if nobody wanted to hear me speak or read my book, I will still do this and keep doing what I’m passionate about. Thanks @LollyDaskal @oprah #believe

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  13. Nabil M

    21. Feb, 2016

    Who are you when no one is watching?
    * I am free.
    * I meet with myself, actually.
    * I see my ambition, and my dreams.
    * I see my abilities.

    Also :
    In this case : I am free, like a bird who live above the trees , and from above the twigs go and come . Is freedom be

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