Being so independent. It is very difficult for me to ask for help. I am a person who has many dreams, visions and ideas. I have endless amounts of energy and I hardly ever sleep. I have always felt that I could handle and do everything by myself.
Recently I came to a realization that was taking me out of my comfort zone, my vision was getting bigger than I could handle myself.
My big dream was for everyone to understand the essence of Lead From Within -That each person who desired to make their dreams come true and to find their purpose, they would have to allow their heart to lead in their decisions and choices and that their beliefs and values would be the foundation of their thinking.
The biggest part of my dream was that I wanted people to know that they mattered. What they thought, what they felt, how they lived their lives mattered.
And for those who were struggling, I would create a community, a base camp of leaders, not just any leaders, but leaders with heart that would be there in discussion, engagement and support. No one was ever going to feel alone again. < big statement
I kept thinking, how am I going to pull this enormous task off by myself. Yes, I have unlimited perseverance and infinite amounts of passion and enormous amount of caring but was that enough? Could I do this on my own?
After much deliberation and painful processing I had to admit that I no longer could do everything by myself. To me- this admission was a major learning step in my personal development as a independent person and as a heart based leader. I became aware that there was no safety in being the same person today that I was yesterday. I had to make a decision.
I had two choices:
I could give up on my vision and dreams that were bursting from my heart or I was going to have to ask for help.
No matter how successful you are. No matter how important or accomplished you are. Knowing that you need people is a significant insight.
Having this awareness scares us because we have fed into the message that our environment feeds us.
– You cannot trust people.
– You SHOULD be able to solve your own issues.
– You will look like a fool because you are asking for help.
– You might be perceived as weak if cannot handle your own business or life.
This kind of messaging keeps us from asking others for help and keeps us from our dreams and desires.
But if you look at successful people and seek what is a constant ingredient in their success. You notice that successful people ask for guidance and assistance to help them achieve their desired outcome.
We all want to be successful. We all have big dreams and visions. So why not ask for help? Asking for help only assists us in making our dreams come true.
So for all of us who want to make a difference in the world and for all of us who dream of being of service to others in a major way. Tell people you need their help.
This post is dedicated to the Lead From Within community. I call you my family. You have helped me with my vision. You have made my dream come true and you continue to support me every Tuesday at eight pm est with your wisdom, brilliance, heart and courage. For this I am forever grateful.
Lead From Within: . Work on your personal development and give yourself permission to reach out and ask for help. Let people know you need them
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.