Among the tribes in Northern Natal in South Africa, the tribes greet each other with “Sawu bona” which in the English language is equivalent to saying “hello”
The phrase “Sawu bona” literally is defined as “I see you.”
If you are a member of the tribe you would reply, “Sikhona” Which in English language is equivalent to saying “I am here”
The order of the greeting of this exchange is important. And what it is saying…in literal translation.
UNTIL YOU SEE ME~ I do not exist.
Which means: when you see me you bring me into existence.
In the blockbuster movie Avatar when they say “I see you” it means I see the love and your feelings and your soul and you mean everything to me.
Among the native people in Africa when they say “Umuntu ngumuntu nagabantu” which from Zulu literally means a person is a person because of the interconnectedness of the people around them. In a word it is the spirit of Ubuntu.
Ubuntu, is complimentary living that luminously embraces a community in healing radiance from the heart and interdependent human spirits of sharing, it reveals respect, recognition and revelation of giftedness to the human spirit.
We can only get better when we truly begin to see each other.
We can only learn and grow when we acknowledge each other.
We can only make a difference if we know our existence matters.
If you are working with a team, in an organization or your own business embody the spirit of “Ubuntu” a spirit of understanding and acknowledging others.
Let others know that you see them.
Let others know they exist.
Give into this profound power of I SEE YOU.
When we acknowledge another. we are saying I SEE YOU.
When we give a compliment, we are saying we know and understand what you have done.
Looking for the positive qualities in your team member, saying empowering messages to your family, creates a significant shift in the interpersonal dynamic and establishes an environment of trust and mutual respect.
Often a team member is not aware of their own strengths and capabilities.
Often others do not know the contributions they make to the whole organization.
As a leader, you have an opportunity to acknowledge and reveal strengths, qualities, and capabilities of each person.
When you acknowledge another you hold up a mirror and say, “This is the person I see in you!”
Often for the first time, you awaken an awareness of qualities in individuals they have not noticed or accepted before.
Often with this new founded awareness it builds self-esteem and empowerment to use their gifts.
In seeing another there is a gift for us as well…..
As a leader, there is nothing more rewarding than watching someone light up from recognition of their own greatness and then watching that moment renew their spirit as they move with new enthusiasm to own and utilize their fullest potential!
Lead From Within: I see you! I know you exist! And you make a difference in my life!
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness is being released by Portfolio May 2017.