Are you worried about the competition?
Are you worried about your status?
Are you forever looking over your shoulder?
This kind of “looking over your shoulder” mindset leads to stress, stuckness, and sickness.
Stop.
Because worrying about “them” and what they are doing and being anxious about what “them” are thinking, will detour you from what is happening with YOU right now.
Where are YOU at the moment?
What are you thinking?
What is your next step?
How will YOU get there?
These are courageous questions to occupy your mind. Rather then worrying and competing with everyone and everything around you.
Your competition, is always going to be changing and forever evolving. It will always be someone who is doing something better, more creative, more innovative than you. How will you keep up?
You can’t… it’s a never ending battle.
My best advise is to Focus on YOU.
What is going on right now with you is more important then what is going on with “them”
If you focus on “them” you will become a reactionary instead of visionary.
If you focus on “them” you will become stuck instead of focused.
If you focus on “them” you will become confused instead of clear.
If you are going to be somewhere be yourself. If you are going to be everywhere you will lose yourself. If you are going to someone be the best you can be.
Lead From Within: What will you today in your business- in your relationships knowing that you are the best and rarest form of beauty on this earth.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.
Sharon
12. Apr, 2011
Gorgeous post. Thank you! Love, Goddess
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Gorgeous Sharon, Thank you for stopping by and leaving a stunning comment.
Blessings
Lolly
GrandmaOnDeck
12. Apr, 2011
Best motivational blog I have read in a long time.It is sharp, to the point, and understandable. It make you want get up and do something for yourself. It moves you off that plateau.
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Thank you Glory for thoughtful comment! Appreciate your visit to my blog.
Blessings
Lolly
Nancy Dietrich
12. Apr, 2011
“you will loose yourself” Should be you will “lose” yourself.
Otherwise, GREAT piece!!
Karl R. Zimmer III
12. Apr, 2011
Dear Lolly,
You always have a wonderful way of getting to the heart of a subject or issue. I so agree with you, too (not much of a surprise there), and your post reminds me of something I have proposed.
When we compete with others, we limit the degree to which we can grow or the heights to which we can achieve. It is only by being the absolute best that we can be (focusing on ourselves) that we can realize our full potential, our greatest life.
Thank you for sharing all that you do.
Love and Blessings,
Karl
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Karl,
What an honor to have you visit the site, I really enjoyed reading your comment.
I love when you said, It is only by being the absolute best that we can be (focusing on ourselves) that we can realize our full potential, our greatest life.
Thank you for being such a wonderful YOU.
Blessings
Lolly
David Pancost
12. Apr, 2011
Wow. What a great post. And soooo true.
I especially love this thought: “If you focus on “them” you will become a reactionary instead of visionary.”
I think this is one of the reasons we see so little innovation in business today. Everyone is so busy running around trying to “beat the competition” they have no time to do something so awesome that the competition no longer matters.
You rock, Lolly. I really appreciate your thoughts here. You’ve given really powerful advice. Thanks.
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Dear David,
Always good to see your smiling face on twitter, on my blog.
Its like a ray of sunshine on a foggy day.
Thanks for your insightful comment
Blessings
Lolly
Helen Antholis
12. Apr, 2011
Thank you, Lolly, for reminding us all that when we are our most authentic selves, we can serve others. If we are always concerned about “them”, we may think we are serving but in fact we are slaves to other’s expectations, beliefs, fears, or worries. In that role, we can never be our true selves. Be your best and you will be the best for others.
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Dear Helen,
What an honor to have you here. Love Love Love what you wrote…If we are always concerned about “them”, we may think we are serving but in fact we are slaves to other’s expectations, beliefs, fears, or worries. In that role, we can never be our true selves. Be your best and you will be the best for others.
Great wisdom from a great lady.
Blessings
Lolly
Edward Colozzi
12. Apr, 2011
Thank you for your excellent crisp post Lolly! People need to hear this “permission” to focus on YOU.
Focusing on YOU requires reflection and fosters Being–and well being. Focusing on “them” results in reaction and a life addicted to “doing”.
A life based on reflection and Being is infinitely more fulfilling than one driven by “doing”. Keep up your Blessed efforts to touch the hearts and minds of so many:) EdC
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Dearest Edward,
Smart words from a smart man.
Focusing on YOU requires reflection and fosters Being–and well being. Focusing on “them” results in reaction and a life addicted to “doing”.
So true and an important message!
Blessings
Lolly
Amber
12. Apr, 2011
Lolly, Good Post. Mary Jo Asmus just had a post on a similar subject. I feel that a lot of us are trying to keep up with the jonseses as they say, and sometimes its so hard to do that. I think it is more important to be true to ourselves rather than always compare ourselves, because this can be exhausting. It’s good sound advice that’s for sure. Thanks for the post!
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Dear Amber,
I am sure Mary Jo Asmus’s post was brilliant. This message of focusing on “YOU” is important. If more of us spread that message, then more people hear the message.
So glad you stopped by. So thoughtful of you to leave a comment.
Blessings
Lolly
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Tunrah,
Thanks for sharing.
Blessings
Lolly
Lynn Fishman RN
12. Apr, 2011
There is no denying that there is a lot of competition out there and things are moving at a rapid pace. That is why I agree with you Lolly. Our time is precious and we need to spend it focusing on offering the best from within ourselves- this alone takes tremendous work and insight.
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Lynn,
I agree with you too. Staying focused on ourselves and what is important to us – is the art of leading from within.
It is the pathwork of transformation and transcendence.
So great to see your insights and thoughtful comments
Blessings
Lolly
Pete S. Reyna III
12. Apr, 2011
I truly enjoyed this post…there are so many people out there that are reactionary…sometimes, I get caught up in that battle myself, however, I come across posts like these that just shake and wake…
Thanks for the great post…
KMF my friend…
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Dear Pete,
We all need these reminders. This post is for all of us. We loose sight on how important we are.
We loose sight on how much we matter. This was my virtual hug for man kind who are so hard on themselves.
Thanks for you comment YOU matter.
Blessings
Lolly
Casey Sullivan
12. Apr, 2011
Great advice!
Lolly Daskal
12. Apr, 2011
Thank you Casey!
Kendra Richards
12. Apr, 2011
Beautifully said… Wise words.. Thank you!
Lolly Daskal
13. Apr, 2011
Thank you Kendra!
Blessings
Lolly
Simon Harvey
13. Apr, 2011
As always you are on the money, so I will be getting my focus on me lens out today even though it will be hard to break the habits of using my zoom lens. Maybe I will take a mirror with me.
Thanks and be strong
Simon
Lolly Daskal
13. Apr, 2011
Simon
Those who look outside dreams, Those who look inside awaken.- Carl Jung
You are amazing. You are strong. You are all that you wish to be within you now.
Just Do It.
Blessings
Lolly
Niki Kamburov
13. Apr, 2011
Lolly,thank you so much!Now i’m standin’ at the crossroad and for me right now isn’t easy enough to be myself-hope your way of thinkin’ help me from this moment ahead.I never read something like this,it’s so encouraging and so passionate and motivating way to say it.Wish you the very best!
Lolly Daskal
13. Apr, 2011
Niki,
Leadership in life is not always about leading others. It is a great deal about leading from within. Thinking of YOU before them. Is a big part of inner strengthening and deeper understanding of self. Give yourself “self love” as you go through this crossroad.
And read my next blog post. Don’t say YES when you mean NO.
Thanks for stopping by
Blessings
Lolly
Lucas
21. Mar, 2014
It took me a long time to realize this, I am very sympathetic but it can be destructive. This is a work in progress and your tips are dead on http://bit.ly/1oG7uDG Thank you!!