Focus On YOU Instead Of Them


 
 
Are you worried about the competition?
 
 
Are you worried about your status?
 
 
Are you forever looking over your shoulder?
 
 
This kind of “looking over your shoulder” mindset leads to stress, stuckness, and sickness.
 
 
Stop.
 
 
Because worrying about “them”  and what they are doing and being anxious about what “them” are thinking, will detour you from what is happening with  YOU right now.
 
 
Where are YOU at the moment?
 
 
What are you thinking?
 
 
What is your next step?
 
 
How will YOU get there?
 
 
These are courageous questions to occupy your mind. Rather then worrying and competing with everyone and everything around you.
 
 
Your competition, is always going to be changing and forever evolving.  It will always be someone who is doing something better, more creative, more innovative than you. How will you keep up?
 
 
You can’t… it’s a never ending battle.
 
 
My best advise is to Focus on YOU.
 
 
What is going on right now with you is more important then what is going on with  “them”
 
 
If you focus on “them” you will become a reactionary instead of visionary.
 
 
If you focus on  “them” you will become stuck instead of focused.
 
 
If you focus on “them” you will become confused instead of clear.
 
 
If you are going to be somewhere be yourself. If you are going to be everywhere you will lose yourself. If you are going to someone be the best you can be.
 
 
Lead From Within: What will you today in your business- in your relationships knowing that you are the best and rarest form of beauty on this earth.


Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies. As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world.

Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.

  1. Sharon

    12. Apr, 2011

    Gorgeous post. Thank you! Love, Goddess

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    • Lolly Daskal

      12. Apr, 2011

      Gorgeous Sharon, Thank you for stopping by and leaving a stunning comment.
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  2. GrandmaOnDeck

    12. Apr, 2011

    Best motivational blog I have read in a long time.It is sharp, to the point, and understandable. It make you want get up and do something for yourself. It moves you off that plateau.

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    • Lolly Daskal

      12. Apr, 2011

      Thank you Glory for thoughtful comment! Appreciate your visit to my blog.
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  3. Nancy Dietrich

    12. Apr, 2011

    “you will loose yourself” Should be you will “lose” yourself.

    Otherwise, GREAT piece!!

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  4. Karl R. Zimmer III

    12. Apr, 2011

    Dear Lolly,

    You always have a wonderful way of getting to the heart of a subject or issue. I so agree with you, too (not much of a surprise there), and your post reminds me of something I have proposed.

    When we compete with others, we limit the degree to which we can grow or the heights to which we can achieve. It is only by being the absolute best that we can be (focusing on ourselves) that we can realize our full potential, our greatest life.

    Thank you for sharing all that you do.

    Love and Blessings,
    Karl

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    • Lolly Daskal

      12. Apr, 2011

      Karl,
      What an honor to have you visit the site, I really enjoyed reading your comment.
      I love when you said, It is only by being the absolute best that we can be (focusing on ourselves) that we can realize our full potential, our greatest life.
      Thank you for being such a wonderful YOU.
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  5. David Pancost

    12. Apr, 2011

    Wow. What a great post. And soooo true.

    I especially love this thought: “If you focus on “them” you will become a reactionary instead of visionary.”

    I think this is one of the reasons we see so little innovation in business today. Everyone is so busy running around trying to “beat the competition” they have no time to do something so awesome that the competition no longer matters.

    You rock, Lolly. I really appreciate your thoughts here. You’ve given really powerful advice. Thanks.

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    • Lolly Daskal

      12. Apr, 2011

      Dear David,
      Always good to see your smiling face on twitter, on my blog.
      Its like a ray of sunshine on a foggy day.
      Thanks for your insightful comment
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  6. Helen Antholis

    12. Apr, 2011

    Thank you, Lolly, for reminding us all that when we are our most authentic selves, we can serve others. If we are always concerned about “them”, we may think we are serving but in fact we are slaves to other’s expectations, beliefs, fears, or worries. In that role, we can never be our true selves. Be your best and you will be the best for others.

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    • Lolly Daskal

      12. Apr, 2011

      Dear Helen,

      What an honor to have you here. Love Love Love what you wrote…If we are always concerned about “them”, we may think we are serving but in fact we are slaves to other’s expectations, beliefs, fears, or worries. In that role, we can never be our true selves. Be your best and you will be the best for others.
      Great wisdom from a great lady.
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  7. Edward Colozzi

    12. Apr, 2011

    Thank you for your excellent crisp post Lolly! People need to hear this “permission” to focus on YOU.

    Focusing on YOU requires reflection and fosters Being–and well being. Focusing on “them” results in reaction and a life addicted to “doing”.

    A life based on reflection and Being is infinitely more fulfilling than one driven by “doing”. Keep up your Blessed efforts to touch the hearts and minds of so many:) EdC

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    • Lolly Daskal

      12. Apr, 2011

      Dearest Edward,
      Smart words from a smart man.

      Focusing on YOU requires reflection and fosters Being–and well being. Focusing on “them” results in reaction and a life addicted to “doing”.

      So true and an important message!
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  8. Amber

    12. Apr, 2011

    Lolly, Good Post. Mary Jo Asmus just had a post on a similar subject. I feel that a lot of us are trying to keep up with the jonseses as they say, and sometimes its so hard to do that. I think it is more important to be true to ourselves rather than always compare ourselves, because this can be exhausting. It’s good sound advice that’s for sure. Thanks for the post!

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    • Lolly Daskal

      12. Apr, 2011

      Dear Amber,
      I am sure Mary Jo Asmus’s post was brilliant. This message of focusing on “YOU” is important. If more of us spread that message, then more people hear the message.
      So glad you stopped by. So thoughtful of you to leave a comment.
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  9. Lolly Daskal

    12. Apr, 2011

    Tunrah,
    Thanks for sharing.
    Blessings
    Lolly

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  10. Lynn Fishman RN

    12. Apr, 2011

    There is no denying that there is a lot of competition out there and things are moving at a rapid pace. That is why I agree with you Lolly. Our time is precious and we need to spend it focusing on offering the best from within ourselves- this alone takes tremendous work and insight.

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    • Lolly Daskal

      12. Apr, 2011

      Lynn,
      I agree with you too. Staying focused on ourselves and what is important to us – is the art of leading from within.
      It is the pathwork of transformation and transcendence.
      So great to see your insights and thoughtful comments
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  11. Pete S. Reyna III

    12. Apr, 2011

    I truly enjoyed this post…there are so many people out there that are reactionary…sometimes, I get caught up in that battle myself, however, I come across posts like these that just shake and wake…

    Thanks for the great post…

    KMF my friend…

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    • Lolly Daskal

      12. Apr, 2011

      Dear Pete,
      We all need these reminders. This post is for all of us. We loose sight on how important we are.
      We loose sight on how much we matter. This was my virtual hug for man kind who are so hard on themselves.
      Thanks for you comment YOU matter.
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  12. Casey Sullivan

    12. Apr, 2011

    Great advice!

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  13. Kendra Richards

    12. Apr, 2011

    Beautifully said… Wise words.. Thank you!

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  14. Simon Harvey

    13. Apr, 2011

    As always you are on the money, so I will be getting my focus on me lens out today even though it will be hard to break the habits of using my zoom lens. Maybe I will take a mirror with me.

    Thanks and be strong
    Simon

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    • Lolly Daskal

      13. Apr, 2011

      Simon
      Those who look outside dreams, Those who look inside awaken.- Carl Jung

      You are amazing. You are strong. You are all that you wish to be within you now.
      Just Do It.
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  15. Niki Kamburov

    13. Apr, 2011

    Lolly,thank you so much!Now i’m standin’ at the crossroad and for me right now isn’t easy enough to be myself-hope your way of thinkin’ help me from this moment ahead.I never read something like this,it’s so encouraging and so passionate and motivating way to say it.Wish you the very best!

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    • Lolly Daskal

      13. Apr, 2011

      Niki,
      Leadership in life is not always about leading others. It is a great deal about leading from within. Thinking of YOU before them. Is a big part of inner strengthening and deeper understanding of self. Give yourself “self love” as you go through this crossroad.
      And read my next blog post. Don’t say YES when you mean NO.
      Thanks for stopping by
      Blessings
      Lolly

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  16. Lucas

    21. Mar, 2014

    It took me a long time to realize this, I am very sympathetic but it can be destructive. This is a work in progress and your tips are dead on http://bit.ly/1oG7uDG Thank you!!

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