6 Effective Ways to Deal With People Who Bug You

There will always be some people who bring out the best in us, and some who bring out the worst.

If you’ve ever been stuck with one of the latter–maybe a co-worker or boss, a close friend’s spouse, or even a family member–it can be difficult to cope.

But here’s the good news: There are effective, learnable strategies for dealing with people you really bug you.

Once you know what needs to be done and how to do it, you will be able to take charge of unpleasant situations and redirect them toward worthwhile results.

1. Learn how to adjust your attitude.

You can’t change people, but you can change yourself. Before you even begin to deal with how this person annoys and frustrates you, you can take control of the situation by making sure your attitude and behavior are calm and centered.

2. Make a point of getting to know them.

Learn as much as you can about them. Find out their story; figure out what motivates them. The more you know, the more compassionate you can become.

3. Learn to listen, and listen actively.

Be ready with open ears and heart. Really listen. Listen to understand. Listen to learn. Listen so you can make a deeper connection. Most people who bug us just want to be heard and understood.

4. Share priorities and not problems.

When dealing with difficult people, we tend to concentrate on difficulties. Change it up and talk about the priorities you share. It may be a starting place for mutual understanding.

5. Master how to stand united.

United we stand, but divided we can’t stand each other. Conflict occurs when the emphasis is on differences. Again, look for common ground. Mutuality can turn conflict into collaboration.

6. Expect what you project.

People rise or fall to the level of your expectations and projections. Project positivity and you will get it back in return.

Dealing with a person that bugs you doesn’t necessarily have to bring out the worst in you. Instead, it can be an opportunity for growth and learning, and a relationship that may never make it to BFF but can at least be cordial and productive.

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Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies. As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world.

Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.

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