Stay Vulnerable Even When It Hurts

Posted on 09. Aug, 2012 by in Blog, Lead From Within, Personal Development, Purpose


 
Each day that we make choices about our life and we don’t admit our vulnerability, we are robbing ourselves of our humanity.
 
Vulnerability is as much a part of being human as is strength.
 
Many of us have been conditioned to be strong.
 
Many of us have been encouraged not to ask for help.
 
Many of us have been persuaded not need anyone.
 
To be human is to discover we can be vulnerable and still be strong.
 
We can ask for help and still lead and we can need others and still be tenacious.
 
Most creative, innovative, visionary people have been people who have lived their lives by serendipity, inspiration and vulnerability.
 
You may feel that you have tried too many times too many things, or maybe you have been judged too harshly in the past and you have lost the innocence to stay vulnerable.
 
It takes a strong person to live openly in their vulnerability.
 
Admitting that you don’t have to solve every problem you face is strong.
Allowing yourself to say, “I don’t have to fix every problem is strong”
 
In times of vulnerability:
 
Read biographies’ of others: see how others have struggled through their fragile moments and survived.
Start journaling: see where you need to remain open and admit your fragility, admitting vulnerability creates intimacy.
Begin self reflection: taking the time to go inward, begins with you, it gives you the answers are seeking.
 
You can’t solve a problem you won’t face.
 
You can’t protect yourself against possible hurt.
 
This world is about taking in not shutting out.
 
In order to find your way, you have to pay close attention to the signs about when you feel you want to shut down and hide behind those messages: I don’t need you. I can do this by myself.
 
We must reenter the truth of what is really going on and be honest.
 
We must stay vulnerable.
 
We cannot fear what lies within us, we can only love ourselves long enough to accept ourselves.
 
Lead From Within: The strongest people are the ones that can withstand their vulnerability and honor the balance about remaining open and being vulnerable.

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23 Responses to “Stay Vulnerable Even When It Hurts”

  1. Dan

    09. Aug, 2012

    Wonderful, Lolly.

    There’s so much of you in this. Only someone who has been to that place themselves can tell such a story…that’s where the inspiration in it truly lies. “I went there, it was tough, I came back, this is what I learned.” To be present in such a way offers amazing guidance to us all.

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    • Catherine-Core Coaching

      09. Aug, 2012

      True!

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      • lollydaskal

        09. Aug, 2012

        Owning our past can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from our future. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as threatening as staying stuck.

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    • lollydaskal

      09. Aug, 2012

      Being vulnerable means being open, for wounding, but also for pleasure. Being open to the wounds of life means also being open to the bounty and beauty. Don’t mask or deny your vulnerability: it is your greatest asset. Be vulnerable. Be strong. Be alive.

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    • Robert

      30. Aug, 2014

      Bravo! Dan!

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  2. Jhannuzs

    09. Aug, 2012

    Great

    To be humble also is a way to learn more about quality life!

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    • lollydaskal

      09. Aug, 2012

      Remember you are stronger than pain and you are bigger than your failures. Be strong stay vulnerable.

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    • lollydaskal

      09. Aug, 2012

      We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust… but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find what we are looking for.

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  3. Catherine-Core Coaching

    09. Aug, 2012

    something good to remember! thank you

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  4. KellyLako

    09. Aug, 2012

    There are times when u have a problem and it feels like the preacher is speakin to u. Thia articles has been it, thanks

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  5. Olaf Lewitz

    10. Aug, 2012

    Thank you. Awesome inspiration!

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  6. Vikki Sutton

    10. Aug, 2012

    Lolly, I love your blog! You speak truth.

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  7. Chery Gegelman

    11. Aug, 2012

    Lolly ~ Thank you for sharing this post!

    It is so simple, so POWERFUL and so true! At times this has been one of the hardest choices to make. …At the same time, if taking that risk provides the possibility of more peace, more joy, more life… Is there really a choice?

    Thank you for choosing to lead from a place of vulnerability!

    Consider Yourself Hugged!

    Chery

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  8. Jon M

    11. Aug, 2012

    Great point, Lolly. In recognizing and embracing our vulnerability, we gain strength in becoming better people and leaders.

    Your point about reading biographies is an essential one. Through biographies, we learn about struggles, achievements, and principles that power people forward to do great things in life.

    Thanks!

    Jon

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  9. Greg Marcus

    13. Aug, 2012

    Thanks Lolly. I think people get in the biggest trouble when they think they are strong enough to face things by themselves.

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  10. Gail

    18. Aug, 2012

    Thanks for this timely wisdom, Lolly. I’m working on it.

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  11. Ed Hennessy

    23. Aug, 2012

    vulnerability and courage are different sides of the same coin, terrific comments about the strength of vulnerability.

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  12. Delna

    09. Sep, 2012

    Many thanks, it sure is a mind opener! I am very fortunate to have got to know of your site and have shared it on my blog http://believeabundance.blogspot.com/, please do share some more of your valuable knowledge so that it can be of use to others….

    Hugs, Delna

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  13. Samantha

    23. Jun, 2013

    How have I MISSED this post Lolly!?!? : )

    You hit the big ones for me right at the top:

    Many of us have been conditioned to be strong.
    Many of us have been encouraged not to ask for help.
    Many of us have been persuaded to not need anyone.

    Being shamed for needing or requiring any help at all.

    So that has led to making it difficult to reach out and ask for help when those of us who are conditioned to believe we either aren’t worthy of help or are supposed to be constantly self-sufficient that we rarely, if ever, need any.

    In the past, I’ve even tweeted something along the lines of, ‘One of the biggest lies on the planet is the one that causes us to deny that we have any needs at all.’

    When we buy this lie (and it can be deeply ingrained and is one of my biggies), we wait WAY too long to reach out. Which can be life-threatening in some cases.

    Interdependency is the happy medium between being overly -dependent and hyper independent. The two extremes that can cause problems.

    Love this post Lolly!

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  14. Deb Pittam

    31. Aug, 2014

    Great topic and really great points you make. Currently listening to Brene Brown who has done so much research on this- completely in tune with what you say and worth looking at too. Great suggestions about what to do when feeing vulnerable. Thanks

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