“ If only” is a state of mind you get when you believe that you are living in deprivation of abundance.
If only I had a million dollars….
If only I had a great relationship…..
If only I had the perfect job………
If only I had a gorgeous body……..
If only I had a huge house……….
If only I had parents who understand me……..
If only world peace would come……..
….then my life would be perfect. Well, the reply to “If only” is to understand what you do have is perfect for where you are at this present moment.
You make your life perfect not by bemoaning what doesn’t exist, but by adding value, learning from, and working with what does.
What are some of your “If onlys“? Does wishing turn them into reality?
For every “If only” think of a resource you already posses that could help you get to where you want to be.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.
21. Sep, 2009
Thanks for the great article!
So if we replace the “if only” statements to appreciate what we have, we’re much better off.
For instance, turn “if only I had a million dollars” into “I appreciate the money I have and what I can do with it”.
It changes the focus from negative to positive, and from deprivation to inspiration.