Lolly Daskal

It Is Habit Forming

Our habits, whatever they may be, were greatly influenced, if not totally formed, during childhood.

We learned our behavior through imitation-imitation of our parents, our siblings, our peer group.

But we need not be stuck in habits that are unhealthy.

The choice to create new patterns of behavior is ours to make- every moment, every hour and every day.

However, parting with the old patterns in order to make way for the new takes  commitment and determination.

Lead From Within: Find the strength within yourself to let go of the behavior that stands in the way of today’s happiness.

Share with me how you break your habits?

Feel The Fear Do It Anyway

That which we fear grows in proportion  to our preoccupation with it. The more we fear a thing, the bigger it becomes which in turn increases our fear.

We can move forward and through anything. All situations can be met. All experiences can be survived. Avoidance is no longer our technique for survival.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said, You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

Lead From Within: There is nothing you cannot handle.

This Too Shall Pass

According to an ancient tale, a Sufi village was attacked and captured by a group of warriors. The king of the victorious tribe called the Sufi Leaders and said that unless they could tell him what would make him “happy when he was sad, and sad when he was happy,” the entire village would be put to death the following morning.

The village people constructed a large bonfire and all night long their wise men and women pondered to come up with an answer for the King’s question.

What could make a person happy when he was sad, and sad when he was happy?

All too soon sunrise came and the king entered the village. Approaching the wise ones he asked, “Have you come up with an answer?”

One of the wise men then reached into his pouch and presented the king with a gold ring.

The king  was perplexed.

“I have no need for more gold, he shouted. “How can this ring make me happy when I am sad, and sad when I am happy?”

Then the king looked again and saw an inscription.

It read “This too shall pass.”

So it is within your life. When everything is going according to plan, savor the moments and realize that in time they will be a distant memory. And when the night is the darkest, and your business is failing, your relationship are falling apart, and you cannot imagine how things will ever improve, remember that nothing in the physical world lasts forever.

Lead From Within: Accept both the good and the bad times equally, understand that all of life’s teachings are necessary for growth.

Lose Yourself to Find Yourself

You do not have to have a life-threatening disease or a bad situation to ignite your passion to live.

Some of us are called to it, by numbness, fatigue, or just plain boredom.

Some of us have the sense that we are not using our fullest potential and the feeling frustrates us.

Even at our happiest moments, we may feel that there is something missing.

To explore what it would mean to live a full life and passionately on purpose, you would have to drop the preconceived notion of who and what you are.

Sometimes we define ourselves, by stories we tell ourselves, or explanations we identity with, that we lose our real self.

How much do you want to be free from the struggle and frustration, free from the doubt?

Ask yourself…

What is it too soon for?

What is it too late for?

What is jut the right time for?

Lead From Within: May you allow yourself the stillness so you can open your mind and heart to your deepest truth.

What is your deepest truth?
What are you searching for?
Who are you in your dreams?

Feelings Guide You

Like a rear view mirror, feelings face backwards. They show what is behind us- not where we are now and not where we are going.

The way we feel now has been conditioned by lessons we learned in the past.

Our habitual feelings are reflections of where we have been and who we have been with.

To keep ourselves emotionally balanced, we need to remember that feelings are not facts but responses that require both listening and monitoring.

If we feel fearful, angry, depressed or overwhelmed, we first need to acknowledge the feeling. We need to separate it from the situation.

We can say to ourselves, “While I am having this feeling, it is not an unalterable condition. It is a response to a particular situation.It may be a warning, or it may be an unfounded fear. In order not to become overwhelmed by my feelings, how can I change the situation or my response to it?”

Emotions need recognition and acceptance, not only attention, while at the same time maintaining a sense of clarity and balance.

Lead From Within: Allow your feelings to guide you, not control you. It is your decision to be in charge

No Comparison

How often do you play the comparison game?

Sometimes you believe that if only you had the luck the other people had, then you would make it in life.

Are you not forgetting that luck really has nothing to do with the good things you have in our life and that fortune is the result of making the proper choices and keeping your values intact?

Stop, comparing yourself to others and to their situations.

You never know what is going on in the other person’s life. Each and every one of us has our own lessons to learn, our own essence to explore and pursue.

You cannot begin to be content until you have released the urge to compare yourself to others.

Remind yourself, that there is a purpose and a point to all that you undergo. You suffer, you struggle, and your pain engenders you to have a compassionate heart and be more graceful with others. When you struggle, remember that your suffering carries a gift within its hardship, a goal within a trail. Choose to recognize the powerful strength and goodness in all of your life.

Be alert to your blessings. Open your eyes, ears and heart to the goodness all around you. Focus on the slight, steady, constant flow of blessings you have in your life. Celebrate every circumstance and each encounter.

Your desire to see your blessings gives you eyes to see and ears to hear.

Lead From Within: Be grateful for who you are and for what you have in your life.

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Gossip

There is no way to get away from gossip; people are interested in one another, and regardless of what you do there is a good chance you are the topic of a gossip session somewhere.

Even if all you do is avoid people and stay in your house, that fact alone can provide ground for the neighborhood gossip mill.

Many problems come from gossiping.

Gossiping can hurt others and damage their reputations if it involves rumors.

People who gossip might be a lot better off using the time improving themselves or at least looking at why they are so interested in someone else’s life.

Lead From Within: Why not honor and respect the people around you by gossiping about their positive attributes.

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Be Kind

Just as in conversation it is good idea to listen more than you talk, it is also wise in a relationships to think about the well-being of others more than you think about your own wishes and desires.

When you constantly strive to treat others in the same way you would like them to treat you , you become a person whom others like to be around, one who commands their respect, confidence, and loyalty.

When you learn to mange emotions and your ego, and when you learn to always consider the needs and desires of others, it is inevitable that you will cultivate a inner circle of friends and relationships that are equally considerate and kind to you.

Lead From Within: All enduring success is founded upon harmonious human relationships.

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Nothing Exists In Isolation

Who is in your life?

What relationships do you have?

Do you understand your relationships?

Because if you don’t understand your relationships you don’t fully understand yourself.

Your interactions are your life; you define yourself through your relationships.

The people you chose to spend time with show what you think of yourself and your place in the world.

How you relate to others and how they relate to you, how those relationships nurture you,
whether those relationships have quality and purposefulness, can very much nurture your nature.

Nothing exists in isolation. Relationships are not separate from you, they are part of you.

Your relationships define you!

Your relationships will be what you make them.

If you are the kind of person who freely gives of your time and always shows consideration for others, your relationships will be generous and kind.

If you are the kind of person who takes your relationship for granted, neither giving nor expecting much in return, you will attract relationships who exhibit the same qualities.

Your relationships are the essence of your life experience. In relationships, like attracts like.

Lead From Within: Relationships must be cultivated.  Do you know how to cultivate your relationships for success?

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A Kite Flies Against The Wind

It is important to recognize from the beginning that success will not be achieved easily.

Achievers – like a kite struggling against the gusts-soar to great heights, firmly anchored to a philosophy of success that keeps them on course, regardless of the difficulties they encounter along the way.

Make sure you are anchored to a philosophy that will sustain you despite the difficulties you will most certainly face in your quest for success.

When you know what you are about, when you have a definite goals and plan for achieving them, you may be buffeted by the winds of circumstances, but you will never be blown permanently off course. The stronger the wind, the higher you will fly.

Lead From Within: Remember, a kite flies against the wind, not with it.