We learned our behavior through imitation-imitation of our parents, our siblings, our peer group.

But we need not be stuck in habits that are unhealthy.

The choice to create new patterns of behavior is ours to make- every moment, every hour and every day.

However, parting with the old patterns in order to make way for the new takes  commitment and determination.

Lead From Within: Find the strength within yourself to let go of the behavior that stands in the way of today’s happiness.

Share with me how you break your habits?

You and I know what it is…

It is Fear….

Fear has many names, apprehension, misgiving, trepidation, dread, horror, phobia, terror, always foreboding, fret, distress, panic, and worry. And this emotion is  probably the most common limiting emotion for many people.

If I refuse to listen to the voice of fear, Would the voice of courage whisper in my ear?

Some of you have grown so accustomed to fear it has become a part of your daily lives.  When you withdraw from a situation in order to save yourselves from failure, you have chosen instead another kind of failure: failure to take all you can from life, failure to be all that you can be. Every experience can move you forward in the understanding of yourselves. When you withdraw, you stay stuck in a world you need to leave behind.

Fear is an acronym: False Expectations Appearing Real. For the most part, what you fear is not real- it is merely your mind imagining something awful that has not yet happened.

Seldom do you do the thing you fear, so you seldom discover whether or not your projection of disaster is accurate. Fear breeds lack of experience, lack of experience breeds ignorance, ignorance breeds more fear. It is a vicious cycle.

Sophocles (Fifth Century B.C.) knew this when he wrote, “To him who is in fear, everything rustles.”

How do you handle fear when it shows up:  Face it. Explore it. Accept it. Respond to it.

Facing fear-means you can stop running from the voices in your heads that make you hide and cringe.

Exploring fear- means you turn around and walk straight towards the big scary bully.

Accepting fear- means you see the fear and you realize some things you cannot change.

Responding to fear- means you change your response when fear shows up.

Changing your habits – your vocabulary-your thinking will help you change your perceptions.

Decide today- that you won’t be one of those people who are a victim to their thoughts and habits. Conquer your thoughts today and become the great warrior, enjoying the life that has meant to be for you.

It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.-Aurelius Marcus

These steps are  simple but powerful – Be aware of your fear, Do not run, Do not hide, Do not cover it up with excuses- Make that courageous move- Move straight toward it.  The fear you have today- the one you spent a lifetime trying to ignore is about to become your greatest teacher.

This feeling of being stuck is very familiar for most of us.

Sometimes you can’t see your way out of the mess.

How easy to think, you will be feeling like this forever.

This moment can be a turning point for you.

Here is a secret.

You are never stuck.

No matter where you are, you can turn things around.

You simply have to be open to change.

The feeling of being stuck is simply YOU telling yourself that there is more that you desire in your life.

The frustration of being stuck, and the negative emotions that are created around it, is often caused when you aren’t sure how to make the changes you want.

Yes, life has created certain challenges for you. But the purpose was not to make you feel stuck. The purpose was to set you free. To provide you with lessons, experiences, and circumstances that would trigger growth and healing.

Life is provoking, promoting, urging you to grow, stretch, learn and heal.

Life is trying to get you unstuck.

If there is one thing to be true, life is in a constant continuous change.

For getting unstuck. Get clear on what you want to change. Set up realistic timelines. Be optimistic about it is you want.  Cry when you need to. Rest when you are tired. But give life the space to work its magic.

Get unstuck, this second, this minute, this hour, this life. And live the life you are meant to live.