After years of research and work with married couples, noted psychologist John Gottman discovered that it takes five positive comments to negate the effects of just one negative comment.
Over the past decade scientists have applied this finding to a number of contexts. It turns out this positive-to-negative ratio applies to more than just interpersonal relationships. It also determines workplace performance.
People who work hard want to feel appreciated for their work.
Sometimes we as leaders, with our busy schedules and long to-do list, fail to provide positive feedback to the people we lead and to acknowledge the people that matter.
Many organizations are lacking leaders who communicate how individuals’ accomplishments affect the larger organization
On a personal scale, people don’t always communicate how much other people’s strengths have helped them.
So why do so many people go unappreciated?
Because we are too busy, and we forget, and even though it is intuitive to voice our appreciation we do not take the time to do it.
Lack of acknowledgement leaves team members feeling disconnected and disregarded.
Lack of seeing the good leaves people unappreciated and unsatisfied.
We must build appropriate personal relationships with employees and purposefully listen to what energizes people.
In doing so, we will be able to benefit from their strengths and their presence.
In a culture where so many leaders highlight challenges and weaknesses, we must recognize that acceptance, awareness and acknowledgement will affect our team’s performance.
So what happens when we do take the time to look for the good first?
It demonstrates that we care.
It shows that we see them.
It validates their sense of worth.
It confirms their roles and purpose.
It allows them to take ownership for what they do.
Leaders need to slow down and make the time to look for the good first.
We must spot great work and then acknowledge it. When we recognize dedicated others, we must take the time to praise them.
By engaging the heart of your people, you will get the best of what they have to offer.
By embracing the mind of your people, you will get them to be responsible for performance.
By embracing the will of your people, you will get them to be passionate.
The necessary focus on employee appreciation requires a profoundly different leadership attitude, a change in the corporate mindset, and new formation of our organizational make up.
When we invest in our people, they are more engaged and connected.
People work harder when they are rewarded.
Making time to first see the good and to acknowledge people for their efforts and contributions must be made a priority. Rely on your intuitive feeling to always lead the way. Make the time to do it – now, and every time.
Recognition is the bridge to a brighter tomorrow and a successful future.
Seeing the good in others is the secret ingredient for a getting great things done.
When people are recognized, they feel connected and counted and they become passionate about their work, their life, and their purpose.
Lead from Within: Showing appreciation is not a matter of intention and attention, but a matter of priority and performance.