We live in a world where we are always waiting for something or someone and the experience can become expatriating and frustrating.
Most of us think only of how we can fill the time while we wait.
What chore can I do while I am waiting in line at the grocery store?
What task can I do while I am waiting for a phone call?
We are so concerned with not wasting one precious moment of our day by waiting, that we miss out on a very precious gift.
The next time, you find yourself waiting, try an alternative:
Try to wait with.
Instead of filing the moment, make the moment stretch.
To wait with means:
Waiting with awareness.
Waiting with acknowledgement.
Waiting with anticipation.
When we make waiting active by waiting with, it gives us the alterness to discover something new. It’s not so much about filling time as it is about expanding time.
Waiting with requires the willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within ourselves an unanswered question.
When we wait with, we develop our understanding of what is unfolding.
Sometimes it’s the unknown of waiting with that creates a shift in our thinking. To wait with opens the channels to discovering more.
Waiting is usually about restlessness and resistance.
People who wait to fill time will not have the chance to discover new possibilities.
People who wait for a chance will miss out on helping themselves.
People who wait to become something will risk missing the chance to discover what they are meant to be.
People who wait for a life will have life pass them by. Waiting with is not the absence of action. It’s about being alert, watchful, attentive. It’s about contemplation and trust.
Wait with new eyes and an openness to new discoveries. Wait with a new heart of importance. Wait with a new mind of exploration.
Lead From Within: As leaders, parents, friends, partners, colleagues, as you go through your day, practice waiting with instead of just filling the time. Know that everything awaits you. Life is an ongoing practice of learning, discovering, and exploring.
Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness is being released by Portfolio May 2017.