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It Is Habit Forming

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Our habits, whatever they may be, were greatly influenced, if not totally formed, during childhood.

We learned our behavior through imitation-imitation of our parents, our siblings, our peer group.

But we need not be stuck in habits that are unhealthy.

The choice to create new patterns of behavior is ours to make- every moment, every hour and every day.

However, parting with the old patterns in order to make way for the new takes  commitment and determination.

Lead From Within: Find the strength within yourself to let go of the behavior that stands in the way of today’s happiness.

Share with me how you break your habits?

Feel The Fear Do It Anyway

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That which we fear grows in proportion  to our preoccupation with it. The more we fear a thing, the bigger it becomes which in turn increases our fear.

We can move forward and through anything. All situations can be met. All experiences can be survived. Avoidance is no longer our technique for survival.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said, You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

Lead From Within: There is nothing you cannot handle.

Simplify

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Although we attempt to make it complex, the essence of life is simplicity.

Being a good parent to your children, having loving relationships with your partner, being of service to others- these are the fundamental requirements that nurture the human spirit.

Too often, however, we get lost in the hectic pace of modern life and lose touch with our true priorities.

Look at your own life.

Has it become overly complex?

Have you found yourself burdened by too many responsibilities?

Think how little it takes to life up your spirits- a smile from a child, an unexpected tweet of gratitude, The sun shinning right after a whole week of gray weather.

As you learn to simplify your life, you will experience a freedom and  lightness of burden. These priceless gifts are yours when you learn to focus on what is truly essential.

Lead From Within: Release all extra baggage from your life. Focus on what is truly essential.

As Thoreau said, “Simplify, simplify…”

This Too Shall Pass

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According to an ancient tale, a Sufi village was attacked and captured by a group of warriors. The king of the victorious tribe called the Sufi Leaders and said that unless they could tell him what would make him “happy when he was sad, and sad when he was happy,” the entire village would be put to death the following morning.

The village people constructed a large bonfire and all night long their wise men and women pondered to come up with an answer for the King’s question.

What could make a person happy when he was sad, and sad when he was happy?

All too soon sunrise came and the king entered the village. Approaching the wise ones he asked, “Have you come up with an answer?”

One of the wise men then reached into his pouch and presented the king with a gold ring.

The king  was perplexed.

“I have no need for more gold, he shouted. “How can this ring make me happy when I am sad, and sad when I am happy?”

Then the king looked again and saw an inscription.

It read “This too shall pass.”

So it is within your life. When everything is going according to plan, savor the moments and realize that in time they will be a distant memory. And when the night is the darkest, and your business is failing, your relationship are falling apart, and you cannot imagine how things will ever improve, remember that nothing in the physical world lasts forever.

Lead From Within: Accept both the good and the bad times equally, understand that all of life’s teachings are necessary for growth.

“Remember, no human condition is ever permanent. Then you will not be overjoyed in good fortune nor too sorrowful in misfortune.” Socrates

Life Coaches on David Letterman

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Lose Yourself to Find Yourself

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You do not have to have a life-threatening disease or a bad situation to ignite your passion to live.

Some of us are called to it, by numbness, fatigue, or just plain boredom.

Some of us have the sense that we are not using our fullest potential and the feeling frustrates us.

Even at our happiest moments, we may feel that there is something missing.

To explore what it would mean to live a full life and passionately on purpose, you would have to drop the preconceived notion of who and what you are.

Sometimes we define ourselves, by stories we tell ourselves, or explanations we identity with, that we lose our real self.

How much do you want to be free from the struggle and frustration, free from the doubt?

Ask yourself…

What is it too soon for?

What is it too late for?

What is jut the right time for?

Lead From Within: May you allow yourself the stillness so you can open your mind and heart to your deepest truth.

What is your deepest truth?
What are you searching for?
Who are you in your dreams?

Feelings Guide You

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Like a rear view mirror, feelings face backwards. They show what is behind us- not where we are now and not where we are going.

The way we feel now has been conditioned by lessons we learned in the past.

Our habitual feelings are reflections of where we have been and who we have been with.

To keep ourselves emotionally balanced, we need to remember that feelings are not facts but responses that require both listening and monitoring.

If we feel fearful, angry, depressed or overwhelmed, we first need to acknowledge the feeling. We need to separate it from the situation.

We can say to ourselves, “While I am having this feeling, it is not an unalterable condition. It is a response to a particular situation.It may be a warning, or it may be an unfounded fear. In order not to become overwhelmed by my feelings, how can I change the situation or my response to it?”

Emotions need recognition and acceptance, not only attention, while at the same time maintaining a sense of clarity and balance.

Lead From Within: Allow your feelings to guide you, not control you. It is your decision to be in charge

Keep Your Inner Circle Thriving

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On February 26, 2010, Susan Mazza and I will be facilitating a powerful workshop called Cultivating Your Inner Circle For Success. In the past few weeks I have received an enormous amount of emails asking me what does it take to Cultivate Your Inner Circle For Success?

So today, I want to take the time to discuss just one powerful way to keep your current Inner Circle strong, empowering your mutual success.  Cultivating your Inner Circle for Success begins with being mindful of the needs and commitments of the people you care most about.  You must have your attention on supporting those in your inner circle in thriving as individuals through their relationship with you.

We are all human with fragile, foibles, and insecurities. We each need to be appreciated for the uniqueness that makes us who we are.  We also need to feel appreciated.

One of the most powerful ways of maintaining a thriving Inner Circle is to tell the people in your Inner Circle often just how much you appreciate them and what you appreciate them for.

You can do this in both word and deed.  Some ways you can express your appreciation are to remember occasions that are important to them and congratulate them on their achievements both big and small. Most important of all, let them know that you are there to support them whenever they need you.

To keep your Inner Circle thriving you need frequent expressions to remain connected.

Here is where you can learn more about  Cultivate Your Inner Circle for Success

Please share any thoughts and comments you may have.

No Comparison

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How often do you play the comparison game?

Sometimes you believe that if only you had the luck the other people had, then you would make it in life.

Are you not forgetting that luck really has nothing to do with the good things you have in our life and that fortune is the result of making the proper choices and keeping your values intact?

Stop, comparing yourself to others and to their situations.

You never know what is going on in the other person’s life. Each and every one of us has our own lessons to learn, our own essence to explore and pursue.

You cannot begin to be content until you have released the urge to compare yourself to others.

Remind yourself, that there is a purpose and a point to all that you undergo. You suffer, you struggle, and your pain engenders you to have a compassionate heart and be more graceful with others. When you struggle, remember that your suffering carries a gift within its hardship, a goal within a trail. Choose to recognize the powerful strength and goodness in all of your life.

Be alert to your blessings. Open your eyes, ears and heart to the goodness all around you. Focus on the slight, steady, constant flow of blessings you have in your life. Celebrate every circumstance and each encounter.

Your desire to see your blessings gives you eyes to see and ears to hear.

Lead From Within: Be grateful for who you are and for what you have in your life.

Workshop: Learn to be who are meant to be- Find your strength:  Cultivate Your Inner Circle For Success

Live Your Passion and Purpose:  Lead From Within

Artful Communication

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How you communicate determines whether you build bridges or create havoc within yourself and others.

To have artful communication you have to consciously communicate from your heart and soul, you need to commit yourself to being aware of how, why and when you communicate.

Learning to consciously communicate will help you to understand what your intentions are during any particular encounter, especially during times of intense emotion and vulnerability.

If your intention is to win, or to be right, you’d better pause until you can change that to a desire for better understanding and connection.

The art of communicating consciously means that you ask yourself  if what you are saying enhances feelings of sympathy, safety, and connection in your relationships.

Lead From Within: Remember we are constantly, intuitively, and innately communicating and making connections. Be thoughtful about what you say and do.

Workshop: Learn to Cultivate Your Inner Circle For Success

Live Your Passion and Purpose:  Lead From Within

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