Comments on: Face it. Explore it. Accept it. Respond to it.

By: Janet Vanderhoof

Janet Vanderhoof — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 16:44:36 +0000

Boy do I love your art pieces. They are mesmerizing and your blogs are always spot on.
“When you withdraw, you stay stuck in a world you need to leave behind.” I love this statement. Yes, we have to make choices that empower us every day.

By: Mark Shepard

Mark Shepard — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 14:17:36 +0000

Really Excellent article! I work with anxiety and phobia clients as an NLP practitioner and Hypnotherapist and my experience confirms your point. You hit the nail right on the head.

Language can be a huge trigger for fear. A phrase I’d like to share with you andyour listenter that truly helps is:

“Why does it work out better than I can possibly imagine?”

the “why” question programs your unconscious mind to begin to build evidence contrary to the fear. the presupposition in the sentence predict an outcome that is way better than what you were previously imagining.

hope it helps!

Mark Shepard, “The Courage Coach”
http://www.ClearFear.com

By: Sean Smith

Sean Smith — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 20:20:27 +0000

This is a fantastic article – love the acronym, and the fact that you give people something tangible to actually DO in the face of fear, rather than vague mantras like “Feel the fear and do it anyway” or worse yet, “Don’t be afraid”.

One thing I share with my clients is that fear lives in the future, not the present. Anytime we are afraid, we’re scared of something happening that hasn’t happened yet. Sometimes it is the immediate future, like one second from now, but it’s still not NOW.

Ex: If you see a rattlesnake at your feet, the future fear is that he’s going to bite you. But once he bites you, you’re no longer scared of him biting you, you’re now scared of dying from the bite.

Our fears are always, always, always in the future. So whenever I find myself feeling fear, I try to remember this concept and bring my focus and awareness back to the present moment.

What can I focus on RIGHT NOW, that will get me into action. And since it’s physically impossible for the human mind to focus on two things simultaneously, by focusing on your actions in the moment, you cannot be focused on the fear.

Again, fabulous article! Thanks for sharing.

By: Lolly Daskal

Lolly Daskal — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 13:20:21 +0000

Monica,
Loved your comment. I especially loved your question you posted: “What would you do if you were not afraid?” My answer is: As Shakespeare said, Be just, and fear not.
Fear will be a charge as long as you let it. Our mission if we care to accept it is, to live life that is not lead by fear. How we relate to fear determines how we do in life, and maybe it is the essence of who we are.

By: Tim Hurson

Tim Hurson — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 12:05:25 +0000

Fear is an emotion we can all relate to. In thinking about it, many people immediately think of it as something that is bad, something to be avoided. But fear is good. It sharpens the senses, focuses the mind. The issue is not fear, but how we respond to it.

Fear is powerful. It can make you do anything — or nothing.

It would be great if we could all begin to see that though fear can paralyze us and lead us into ineffective action, it can also be a springboard to growth, freedom, and creativity.

This is a great post Lolly. It acknowledges the fact of fear and gives us a simple but powerful approach to make the most of it.

By: Monica Diaz de Peralta

Monica Diaz de Peralta — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 11:38:39 +0000

I always love your posts, Lolly! Sound thinking and much heart to them. Fear has so many names because we have been afraid of even calling it by name. A bit like not mentioning Vodemort’s name in the Harry Potter books! But once you call it what it is, it loses some of its hold on you. Loved the acronym and the straightforward talk about it. It is not that brave people have no fear, it is that they deal with it. The old question can always help me spring free of it: “What would you do if you were not afraid?” If it is not what I am doing, and I don’t like where I am, it means I still have options!

By: Earl

Earl — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 10:52:37 +0000

Your new acronym – face, explore, accept, respond – is a fresh and energizingly bold move in an ultimately healthy direction.

Strong, affirming changes of habits, vocabulary and thinking lead to greater freedom, too. Well said!

By: Brian Mohrman

Brian Mohrman — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 02:07:46 +0000

This caught my eye. We all know it and have Our own unique form of it. The one we must control only the person them self can make that commitment to control a particular change in their life. Fear has devastated many. Just the idea that this subject could be dealt with on such a massive Scale delights me. Gives me that peaceful feeling inside of me.I am happy to see people like your self actually helping people. I consider this a monster in society today.Thanks to you for throwing such value to us.I wish this could be one of the subjects that could and is going to go to the forefront of all our minds.Just imagine what a wonderful thing it would be. I personally Thank You
God Bless you and yours

By: midori

midori — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 18:59:07 +0000

Thank you for the inspirational post!